(Closed) A simple wedding makes the families fear divorce; don’t let money be the measure

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
1465 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

Wow… Contrary to what the wedding industry wants you to believe, most families (and friends) in real life do not feel the shame or other emotions that you are describing when a simple wedding is being planned. In fact, the majority of people “in real life” prefer simple weddings as guests even, and none of those things you described even come to light. If someone does feel those things, they know better than to say anything to the couple, and they don’t bother to attend the wedding either, which is probably better since they don’t fully support the couple’s relationship. Don’t automatically assume that a simple wedding will earn everyone else the backlash that your families felt the need to inflict on you. Have the wedding that works for you, and anyone who doesn’t like it can stay home.

Post # 4
1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I can’t believe your families have these attitudes!  I think your wedding sounds lovely–it’s not as though you are going to the courthouse on your lunch hour and then going back to work…You are still celebrating your marriage.  I’ve said it a million times–if the bride and groom are happy and having fun, so will everyone else.

I do agree with your mother on the photographer and the dress.  You will be happy to have those pictures later and if it’s an occasion worth celebrating, it’s worthy of a new frock!

Post # 5
88 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@amiko: I appreciate this post and completely agree. Good for you for remembering what really matters and not getting sucked into the materialistic ways of our society. If only more people put as much value into their relationship as they do into wedding details, maybe there would be less divorce.

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