(Closed) A small bomb was dropped…now we are at a crossroads!

posted 5 years ago in Destination Weddings
Post # 16
Member
1076 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Is he 100% sure he’ll be able to come home in August 2017? A lot can change in a year. What if he gets rescheduled again after you plan for the wedding in the season you didn’t want? Just a thought. Tough choice.

Edit: I had assumed having the brother there was not negotiable so I didn’t comment on it. But since many are mentioning it I am curious. Why ARE you rearranging your wedding for one person? 

Post # 17
Member
15528 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Can you have it on a beach further north?  South Carolina?  North Carolina?

Post # 18
Member
2290 posts
Buzzing bee

 I hate to say it, but I would not rearrange for just 1 person who has a limited schedule. I understand wanting everyone there, but at some point you just have to pick a date and stick with it, if they can make it– great! If not, they will be missed

Post # 19
Member
374 posts
Helper bee

View original reply
milabeehappy :  St Augustine is near water so it might be a little more bearable (but not bearable enough) but yes, it really is that unbearable in August in Florida. That is the hotest month of the year. Fans and a tent will not help enough. I hate to say it but I don’t think I could handle anyones outdoor wedding in Florida in August, even it was a close relative.

Post # 20
Member
14159 posts
Honey Beekeeper

While probably not a practical option, with money you can buy almost anything, including a fully air conditioned outdoor tent. I would prioritize having a brother’s attendance over a venue without question. If you are having an indoor wedding, you can wear any dress you want. I’m not sure why your mother says it should be a cocktail dress. 

Post # 21
Member
1961 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

View original reply
fromatoz :  I was thinking the same. Majority rules in this kind of case for me. 

Post # 22
Member
9639 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

what is more important to you, FI’s brother attending or your outdoor wedding?

Post # 23
Member
6 posts
Newbee

August in Florida is muggy but I wouldn’t call it unbearable. I mean, people still live there and go about their lives. Could you perhaps have an outside ceremony for the sake of your photos and everything and then usher everyone inside for the food and reception? I know you really want an outside wedding right now while in the planning stages, I love the outdoors as well. But I still think you would be happy to get back indoors; that’s the case with me anyway. And I’m sure you’ll be thrilled to have Brother-In-Law there as well.

Post # 24
Member
2260 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2020

As much as I could not imagine getting married without my sister, I don’t think I would change so much of my wedding (you’re not just looking at changing dates, but possibly adding costs in switching venues and the extras like fans and tents now and off season vs wedding season pricing). I would look into trying to find other solutions like possibly spending the extra funds to fly the brother in, just for the wedding then back, or maybe even spending the honeymoon in Europe so that way you can celebrate with him there for a bit. 

Post # 25
Member
5151 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I would not rearrange just for one person especially if I had things booked and planned. Outdoors in August in FL is going to make everyone miserable. 

Post # 27
Member
1521 posts
Bumble bee

View original reply
milabeehappy : I echo other bees. How does he know so far out that he cannot do October? A lot can happen in over a year’s time.

Perhaps your Fiance should again ask his brother if it’s at all possible to do October. Maybe the brother said August because that would be better in general for his job…thinking that you two were looking for suggestions on time.

Is it not at all possible for him to squeeze even a three day weekend? Maybe he was thinking he would need to take a week or two off and that’s only when it would be doable. International travel sucks for such short amount of time but I’d do it for my sister.

Post # 28
Member
5775 posts
Bee Keeper

Similar situation to yours- I originally wanted an October wedding (Halloween!!! fall weather etc) but long distance family could only come during the summer (our wedding is next week). We’re having a beach themed wedding that is *mostly* indoors but also includes an attached outdoor patio so if it’s not too hot & muggy &/ or rainy, the party can be half-in, half-out. Indoor beach may sound odd, but we’ve had fun with it (thank you Amazon for the inflatable palm trees!) and an accommodating vendor that allows us to bring in sand etc (with promised next day clean up of course) Is something indoors but with an outdoor extension/ patio/ etc avail in your area? We originally looked into outdoor- but tent and canopy rental / purchase can be really expensive, and even with a number of fans, putting 100 or so people under tents in 30+ Celsius weather sounded really uncomfortable for our guests

Post # 29
Member
238 posts
Helper bee

I live in Georgia, and I have to say, Savannah and St Simons would be just as rough. The gnats are also bad in those places. I’m with the PP who mentioned having the ceremony outdoors then having the reception indoors. I’m so sorry. St Augustine is flipping gorgeous. I really hope you find a solution.

Post # 30
Member
9262 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

View original reply
milabeehappy :  Can you remind us again why it has to be Florida?

The topic ‘A small bomb was dropped…now we are at a crossroads!’ is closed to new replies.

Find Amazing Vendors