(Closed) a small person's vent

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Post # 30
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I hate it when people try to make visibly uncomfortable people less uncomfortable! UGH. People are the worst.

Post # 31
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Buzzing bee

I’m going to sound like a total witch here but it’s the truth:

Being pregnant is a choice so why should I give up my seat and my comfort for your life choice? Just like parents struggling with 4+ kids and a stroller trying to get through a store door- that struggle is their choice and I’m not obligated to help. Sometimes I’ll be nice but if I don’t feel like it, no I won’t help.

Old people I help because I feel bad for them, they always seem so lonely.

Sometimes I’ll help fat or disabled people- but I’ve been stepped on, bumped into, and unapologized to, unthanked too many times after trying to be nice- that a lot of times I won’t help those people unless they look especially friendly/grateful. They’re not entitled to help and anyone being rude especially isn’t going to get it from strangers.

Post # 33
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Buzzing Beekeeper

cherryberrypie:  “Because of my small size, I have not been able to enjoy the pregnancy card.” — First of all, this doesn’t make sense. Second, there is no pregnancy card. and third, you could always just get fat. What do you think of that idea? Or would you rather not be fat? It wouldn’t be worth it? It would be embarassing and you’d get tired of lugging all that weight around?

 

… You don’t say…..

Post # 34
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

cherryberrypie:  I have to say I do understand where you are coming from. I have often felt this way when I was on NY subways, and I am not tiny but there was a time where I was 5’3″ and 120ish so that appears on the smaller side (ah I miss those days!) – but I think perhaps people are just rude on the subways in general. I know what you mean about being squished against because they think they can fit in against you. I do think it’s rude to squish up against anyone unneccessarily, but that’s NY. I am 3 years off the subway now (no longer work in NY) and do not miss that thing!! I have often felt that people that are larger or older or male or anything (not being discriminatory – I’ve seen it from everyone) will take the arm rests from me on planes or busses because they feel they perhaps need them more. I have a narrow upper body so I usually don’t need it but I do find it rude that they purposefully take it firmly and immediately as if I never wanted it the entire 5 hour plane flight! Anyway, I can see why some may have found your post off, but I have had GRRR moments because of what you mention so I do get it.

And getting people to get off their seats? I was talking to my friend, not paying attention, on the train. I looked up and saw a woman with braces trying to get down the stairs on the train. I jumped up and made her come back and take my seat. But was everyone as preoccupied as I or did no one care? I have stood the majority of the time on NY trains and buses and would certainly do so for anyone that needed it more than me.

Post # 35
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Bumble bee

cherryberrypie:  Sorry if you feel that way, but I worked at a Chipotle in high school and we have designated portions that we have to give everyone by default, unless they ask for more of something. And, well, larger people ask for larger potions more often than smaller people. So I’d just ask the servers to give you more of whatever you wanted more of.

Post # 36
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

cherryberrypie:  the middle seat in the car pisses me off too, even worse ive been told to ride in the boot or footwell before because ‘ill fit’ and the offered a lift to too many people and it happened more than once

I always get squished AND the UNSAFE lap belt or no belt at all because im ‘underweight’ if anything I need MORE protection and support not less – I also have a fear of cars since I was a passenger in a major accident and was the only person that walked away but no your small so well stuff you in the most unsafe place

Post # 37
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Bumble Beekeeper

cherryberrypie:  I kind of understand getting stuck in the back middle seat of a car – we always arrange car seating by size (usually me in that seat). We always give the tallest person the front – it would feel pretty rude to cram someone into a tinier space while I had a surplus of leg room. 

Post # 38
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

I’m a “bigger” person (think 5’7″ not skinny) and I’m kind of pissed that I haven’t been given more food at Chipotle yet!!

Post # 39
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Buzzing Beekeeper

btob17:  The middle back seat is the safest spot in a car. There are multiple studies that prove this. If you’re riding with people who would put you in the trunk or the footwell, the problem is your friends, not your size.

Post # 40
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Buzzing Beekeeper

stephanie091512:  Haha!! Print out this thread and tell them you’re onto them now and you demand that they use the HungryFolk measuring spoon!

Post # 41
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

cherryberrypie:  lol why can’t you sit in the front? BECAUSE you are small! the tall people sit in the front! that’s just how it is. It’s just common sense!

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

LilliV:  im the tallest, just the thinnest too

Post # 43
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Disneyland - January 2016

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Post # 44
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’ve seen obese people get on a plane and be apologetic to the person they have to sit next to. Even when it’s me getting squashed, I feel worse for the obese person; it’s hard to be a pariah. I’m small but not tiny and my husband is tall with some seriously long legs, so I’m used to getting the non-aisle seat. I’ve given a seat to mothers with kids and the elderly. But they say never assume a woman is pregnant until you were the baby’s head between her legs or you risk offending them. 

As for food servings, I can never eat the full portions of food at a restaurant anyway. Frankly, our portions sizes in the U.S. are too big, no surprise that as a country we are having such an epidemic of obesity.

Post # 45
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

OP, first world problems. I saw a lady with a stroller get hit by a car. That really put shit like this into perspective. 

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