(Closed) a socially conscious wedding?

posted 11 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
1900 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Can you find a retirement home or hospital to donate the flowers to? Talk to your caterer about donating the leftover food to a homeless shelter or soup kitchen.


Post # 5
248 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

Yes! That was one of the ‘arguments’ I mentioned to my Future Mother-In-Law (who totally agreed) – how could I justify, for example, spending $500+ on flowers, which are used for such a short part of the day and die within a few days. I couldn’t, so we’re not 🙂

We have however picked out the parts that are important to us, to have in this important cultural and social event in our lives, that we are celebrating with our nearest and dearest. It IS a significant event, and it is worth celebrating, and some social customs will be incorporated – but only the ones that matter to us.

That is: marking the occasion by wearing appropriate clothing, sharing a meal (dinner), and celebration (e.g. music, dancing). In saying that, we’re not spending excessively on any of those (dinner = under $40/head I think, music & dancing = free!, Probably clothing is on the ‘upper end’ of our budget scale – Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses and Groomsmen suits ~$100-150, my dress is $1400).

The only thing outside of that that we’re spending significantly on is the photographer – $2800. But we got a great deal and it’s with a top photographer who I’ve worked with before. That’s my selfish splurge.

Everything else though… we decided from the start we want it simple, and not to fuss about things that aren’t going to help us get married or celebrate it. I.e. no favours, Out of Town bags, STDs, very low-key centrepieces, if any.

We’re not married yet though so it remains to be seen what we’ll actually spend (will be $10,000-15,000). I hoped to keep it under $10,000 but at the end of the day we’ve done what we can (bar spending nearly $3k on a photographer), without sacrificing the point of the day for us.

Post # 6
47 posts
  • Wedding: August 2010

We are “registering” for charitable contributions rather than gifts.  We’ve picked a few different groups that we support and are asking people to donate to them, rather than to us.  Who knows if it will work, but we are hoping that it will…

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