Post # 1
Ok so the Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have come to a standstill on how to get engaged. I want to pick it out; he wants it to be a complete surprise. I don’t want to get stuck with his big surprise permanently. A friend put forth a solution: he can buy the dream diamond, put it in a temporary, not so expensive setting, and propose. Then after the proposal, the couple can shop for the perfect setting.
I like this idea!
My questions: Do ring shops let you do this? Is it cost prohibitive to get a ring set into a solitaire setting and then reset a couple of months later? Will they let you return the original “stand in” setting or are you stuck purchasing it? Also, if we buy a diamond online, can you have that diamond reset into a setting at a local store?
Has anyone done this?
Post # 3
If you buy a diamond separately and put it on a stand in setting (I would suggest doing this over buying a cheap ring with a diamond already in it. You’ll probably get a better deal and a better quality diamond that way.) I doubt you’d be able to return that setting after the fact, but at anytime you could take the diamond out and put in on a different setting (and then maybe you could melt down the left over metal and put it towards your new ring or sell it?). I don’t think you’d save any money doing that, but I don’t think it’d be too bad.
Just make sure he knows what shape diamond to get you! haha!
Post # 4
if you buy a loose diamond online from blue nile, i believe that blue nile puts it in a simple tension setting for just this reason.
You can easily have diamonds reset at a local store; sometimes there is a nominal resetting fee but it’s easy to bargain that down/out.
Post # 5
You could just have him use a cheap ring for the proposal and then you pick out the other one together, diamond and all. It would be pricey to buy a setting just for the purpose of the proposal, only to remove it soon after.
My fiance proposed to me with the ring his mother was given by his father. I was completely caught off guard. We later went ring shopping together and picked the real e-ring out together. It worked great!
Post # 6
He can propose with a candy ring! Or one of those plastic ones you can get from the $0.25 machines at the supermarket. My GF’s teacher was proposed to with a plastic ring and then they got the real one later.
Post # 7
My Fiance used a cheap stand in ring also. He proposed on hot, dirty, hike in Kauai and was not going to risk losing the ring in the jungle. He had a ring picked out and showed it to me before he bought it when we got home. Everyone was happy. :o)
Post # 8
seems like a lot of work. why not just show him what you like and then you’ll be surprised but know its something you’ll love. and I bet most engaged/married girls will tell you You’ll love whatever he gives you. It’s the engagement/start of a life together/love and forever that are important. The ring will suddenly be amazing (esp if you pointed him in the right direction).
Post # 9
Alternatively, he could propose with just the diamond itself? Then you could have it set later?
Post # 10
What are the return policies on settings?