(Closed) A storm cloud is hovering over my imminent engagement….

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 4
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914 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’m sorry this is happening! Nothing like work stress to distract you from your exciting time. Just tell yourself that whatever is going to happen at this meeting is already decided, there is really nothing you can do to change it. Maybe they are genuinely going to do a performance review. Maybe there are some things they want you do do differently. Who knows? The point is, try not to let it bother you (I know easier said than done) because in the grand scheme of things, this job may not always be there but your future Fiance will be 🙂

Post # 5
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9956 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

((BIG HUGS))

Try to focus on the happiness of the possibility of getting engaged.  And behave as though you’re crazy about your two bosses so they don’t pick up on the “can’t stand them” vibes.  Smile!!!!!  Good luck!

Post # 6
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4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

I would ask Boyfriend or Best Friend if you two could push back the dinner a week or so until work calms down, just explain the situation (the work part) and tell him you’re all-consumed by worrying about that right now so you’d like to way until you can concentrate on just the two of you at dinner.

And good luck!  Worst stress is THE WORST.

Post # 7
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2831 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Don’t worry about those dumb bosses. I know it’s hard but leave work at work. Leave your phone in your car while at your special dinner and don’t think about anything else.

 

My job sucks too, my boss is from the depths of hell; but i’m not going to let her and the way she treats me get in the way when my time comes (next month) Eff them!

Teehee. Be excited!!

Post # 10
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1416 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Buttercupmcgee:  Aww that’s crappy. I think you will still be in a really good mood because hey your engaged! lol.

  Good luck with the meeting i’m sure it will be fine!

Post # 11
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2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

You’ll be like, “ENGAGEMENT, FUCK YEAH!”

And then you’ll be like, “WORK?! PSSHHAW! I’LL STILL GO BUT I WON’T HAVE ANY EMOTIONAL ATTACHMENT TO IT FOR WEEKS BECAUSE I’M ENGAGED!”

😀

In fact, I doubt you’ll really even hear everything your crappy boss is saying at that meeting.

Woo!

Post # 12
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6256 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2014

It might put a bit of a cloud over your evening, but think of it this way: It’s a surefire way to guarantee you’ll be going into that meeting with a wonderful attitude.

Best of luck to you.

Post # 14
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2523 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@Buttercupmcgee:  I’m sure he/she will, at least for a little while. Endorphins are powerful suckers. Take advantage of it while you can!

Post # 15
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169 posts
Blushing bee

@Buttercupmcgee:  One attitude that might help is if you ask yourself – “What’s the worst that can happen?” Probably, that they fire you on the spot. I don’t know your financial situation, but no matter what, you’d find a way to make ends meet  – you won’t collapse and die of humiliation/anger/hunger/unpaid bills on the spot (though likely you might need to lean on family or your new Fiance while you search for another job). But if that’s the worst that can happen, is it really that bad? It’s like the universe would be giving you a very clear “push” to find a new job where you might be happier. Things wouldn’t be easy, but they very well might turn out better for you in the long run.

So, my point is just this – no matter what happens at the meeting (even the wosrt case scenario), chances are, in a few years down the road you either won’t remember the meeting at all (if it was just some cheesy “do things differently” meeting), or you’ll look back on it as a transition point in your life. But the love you have with your SO/FI and the greater commitment in your relationship will absolutely outshine any other transition happening. You’re getting engaged! And no amount of work crap can overshadow that if you keep it in perspective – love is what matters in life!

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