(Closed) A storm cloud is hovering over my imminent engagement….

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 17
1924 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

Wow that really sucks.  But like all the PPs said, after you get engaged, you’ll be over the moon!  The evening after I picked out my engagement ring and was pretty sure my then-BF was going to buy it soon, I was bit by a dog on my face (it was a corgi, so not as scary as it sounds).  I looked seriously hideous.  I looked like someone had beaten me up.  I had to get stitches on my face, my lip was swollen to 15 times its normal size.  But you know what I kept thinking while I had to go to school and teach like that?  I am getting engaged to my best friend.  I honestly didn’t even care that my face looked like sh*t.  We got engaged a week later, after I was able to smile again without the stitches ripping.  I still have some scars on my face (they’re small, to be fair), and I think about my engagement every time I see them.  

My point of the story is, who cares what else happens?  Worst case scenario, you’re fired from a job you hate.  Yes, your financial situation will suck for awhile, but you’ll have your new Fiance to lean on.  Enjoy this time.  And, of course, good luck on your meeting on Wednesday!

ETA: I just read the post above mine.  I hate being scolded too.  It’s so embarrassing and ughhh.  I understand the dread.  But set it aside tonight 🙂

Post # 18
39 posts
  • Wedding: February 2013

I agree with the other posters. Plus, maybe instead of thinking of there being “a storm cloud” over your engagement, try thinking of there being a “happiness, rainbows, and engagement rings” cloud hanging over your meeting! You are going to have a wonderful dinner tonight and no matter what happens at dinner or tomorrow at work you know that your SO loves you and you have a whole hive of bees to support you!

Post # 19
369 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Torrid is right – once you get engaged, nothing else in the world matters for a few weeks! 

Post # 20
684 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

Whatever happens with work, you will be happy inside 🙂 Just concetrate on how good it will feel to say “I am out of here!” someday to these horrible people 🙂

Post # 21
2605 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

This sounds like the Devil Wears Prada… Is there at least some fabulous (but slightly mean) gay man at your new work place to swaddle you in Chanel and hold your hand while you teeter in your Louboutins and life lessons?  🙂

Post # 22
169 posts
Blushing bee

@Buttercupmcgee:  I know exactly what you mean about dreading being scolded! It’s our perfectionism, and I suffer from the same thing. In fact, I think I tend to be harder on myself for any perceived fault than my bosses ever are! Of course, I have been lucky to have nice and forgiving bosses, who seem to understand that we’re all human, and no one is perfect – sometimes they end up consoling me when I confess that I made a mistake, rather than scolding me for it! Now, if only I could stop being so hard on myself, and also build up the self-esteem that it wouldn’t hurt so badly when others ARE cruel. I’m working on it. And employing that worst-case-scenario reasoning often calms me down when I’m finding myself in worry-mode, as does focusing on the bigger picture (my love for SO). But dealing with perfectionism is definitely a process!

Post # 23
2008 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t do this to yourself!!!!!

Youre getting engaged, the man of your dreams is asking you to be life in his life, forever.

And, work is just work.  You will have jobs after ths one just s you had jobs before this.

I anticipate the meeting to be short, to the point, positive and not worth this stress.

Remember the laws of attraction, what you think about you bring about.

Good luck!!

Post # 24
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I saw this yesterday and just wanted to pop back in and say enjoy your dinner date tonight!  Pre-congratulations, and I hope you come back with happy news! 

As for your bosses, whatever.  Let them scold you for not doing anything wrong.  Go ahead and cry and be all “Oh I’m sorry I’m just SO HAPPY!”  🙂 

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