- 4 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
TL;DR version: Ordered a fitted lace dress, mom hates how it looks on me and now I don’t like it on me either. Tried on a second (less fitted) dress by myself, came to love second dress but mom thinks second one is not flattering either. Do either flatter me at all? Should I keep looking?
After a year of looking through bridal gown mags/online I came to love the detail of lace gowns and I was certain I wanted a lace gown. First time dress shopping (a year ago) I took my 3 bridesmaid BFFs and my mom and tried on various dresses including the lace dress I ended up buying. It was the 4th gown I tried on and was the only one that zipped up and it checked all the boxes (lace, detail, sparkle) so we ordered that dress in the same size. I still do love the dress itself, but don’t feel comfortable with it on me and don’t feel “bridal” and just assumed I would never get that feeling.
Mom pointed out that it was tight across the hips and stomach and I needed to have something to cover up my arms, as she thinks they are not my best feature. I only lost about another 10 lbs between ordering and the first fitting so when I tried it on it was still a bit tight and mom had nothing good to say, ended the appt in tears. Here is the first dress at the fitting:
After this, I decided I wanted to go shopping again by myself (with 2 months until the wedding) to see if there were any off-the-rack dresses that I felt more comfortable in.
At the new store, by myself, the bridal consultant brought this lace top, full satin skirt out that I almost didn’t try on because I never thought I would like a dress that was so simple. I tried it on and was really impressed. I loved the creaminess of the rich satin skirt, the pleating, the delicate and feminine lace details at the top. Showing my mom the pictures she insists that the pleating makes my waist look huge and my arms are uncovered and not pretty. But the kicker is that I actually have this amazing feeling in the dress. I didn’t want to take it off, I feel that it looks beautiful on me and I feel like a bride in this dress. See second dress below:
My friends love the pictures of the second dress (they also liked the first) and we are going to try it on at the store tomorrow to show my mom in person. They say the second dress looks flattering but, they are great friends and wouldn’t be as harsh on me as my mom. So I ask you, which is more flattering, if either?
My mom’s opinions matter because she already bought me the first dress (and wants to buy another that will make me look better) and I want her to be happy as I’m an only child, but at the same time I don’t think we have the same taste.
Thanks for your help! Feeling so stressed out 🙁