Post # 47
Huh, I though Weddingbee was maybe the last stronghold in the online wedding community that was very vocal about NOT using the word TACKY to describe anyone’s wedding. I thought there was some unspoken consensus here about RESPECTING other people’s traditions/choices/tastes. I guess that rule went out the window when we started talking about roasting pigs, which by the way is very common in many parts of the world. I mean I know the original poster used the word “tacky”… but c’mon.
Post # 48
@kwago I don’t think anyone but the original posted used the T word. And I believe most respondents have said that they wouldn’t call it tacky but there are reasons why they don’t like it.
Post # 49
Isn’t seeing the pig kinda the point?! So long as you don’t have many vegetarians, I don’t imagine it would be a problem.
Post # 50
You will NEVER be able to make everyone happy. There is always going to be something about you wedding someone doesn’t like. So do what you want.
Or have fun with it. Instead of an apple, how about something else? For example, if you play tennis, use a tennis ball!
Post # 51
It wouldn’t bother me at all and this is coming from a former die hard vegetarian. Even when I was a vegetarian I could have cared less as it was my personal choice. There was just an episode last week on Four Weddings and one of the girls had it at her wedding (I’m pretty sure it was a tradition for her culture if I recall). The other girls on the show were absolute beasts about it and I found it totally inappropriate! I say do what you want and who cares what anyone else thinks; it’s about what you want to do.
Post # 52
Sounds like a super cool, relaxed, fun, totally awesome time to me! (and delicious too!!)
Post # 53
You won’t ever be able to make everyone happy, but it’s not like your guests are all going to be like, “OMG WHERE IS YOUR WHOLE PIG? WHO SERVES PORK WITHOUT THROWING AN ENTIRE ANIMAL ON A STICK AND ALLOWING GUESTS TO WATCHING ITS FLESH BURN TO A CRISP?” That is a gross thing for a lot of people, vegetarian or not, and small children who’ve never seen it before often especially find it terrible. No one would complain if you just served slabs of pork of pulled pork or whatever, unless EVERYONE you know expects a pig roast at a gathering (which seems unlikely). You might, however, gross out a lot of people with a full pig roast.
You know what, have that pig roast. I think it’s great for people to recognize that their meat really came from an identifiable animal. I just personally would never attend a function with a pig roast because I’m all too aware of the intelligence, sensitivity, and complex social lives pigs have after working at a farm sanctuary for two months, and find it disgusting to watch the color of its body had in life replaced with a deathly burnt one, as people wait to devour it without any regard for the life it may have had before it was killed for dinner. And a tennis ball in its mouth–really? Could someone who’d do that have ANY less respect for animals or appreciation of the dignity of a once-living thing? Killing an animal for food isn’t funny and I don’t see why anyone would try to make it a comical sight. Not to mention you run the risk of your entire roast tasting faintly of burnt rubber.
Post # 54
I love pork but I honestly don’t know how I would feel about it. I’ve never seen one in real life, only on TV. It doesn’t bother me when I see it on TV really. I don’t know. It depends on your culture and your guests. I would not use the word tacky to describe it it just may be a bit jarring to see it for some people. I’d never be weird or judgy about it if that’s what someone had at their wedding though because obviously that’s what they are into and it’s not something someone is gonna just do for the hell of it. It’s obviously thought out beforehand. So, yeah, not “tacky” but definitely not everyone’s taste. Only you know your guests, though, so it’s your call as to whether you think it will go over.
Post # 55
i’ve REALLY tried to hold my personal views on eating pork to myself and not get all preachy as I follow this thread, (and generally do not try to make people feel bad for eating meat). but the tennis ball thing is just SO SO SAD and insulting and dismissive of a living being that gave it’s life for you. did you know pigs are the 4th smartest animal behind elephants, dolphins and chimps? Would you stick a tennis ball into their mouth and make a spectacle out of watching it fry? How about your pet dog who is far less intelligent than a pig? probably wouldn’t dream of it. So why desecrate and disrespect a pig?
another little know fact: a pig will learn it’s name within a few weeks of being born. my cat is 2 years old and still doesn’t answer to his name! let’s think about that before sticking a tennis ball in it’s mouth.
Post # 56
I voted “yes” to Tacky… though I don’t think tacky is the right word. But I don’t think I would have the pig on display. I’ve only been to one pig roast (we live in the city) and I could see hair/fur still on him and it was sad… LOL… ohhhh city folk! I guess it really depends on your guest list!
Bottom line: there is no “right” or “wrong” here! It’s your wedding and your family & friends!! No worries, as long as there is a smile on your faces!
Post # 57
Since you are already having a backyard relaxed reception I think that displaying the pig would be awesome! And if anyone bothered to read your post, you have only ONE vegetarian coming. I would make sure the caterer prepares that food or displays that food AWAY from the pig. Otherwise, cool idea!
And for the people that think it is disrespectful:
- Your species is OMNIVOROUS in nature. It is SURVIVAL to eat meat, not barbaric.
- Displaying an animal is NOT disrespectful to that animal. IMO it honors the animal MORE.
- Being Hawaiian, I have to say that my opinion is totally biased. But my opinion is also colored by my experiences in other countries throughout the world where food is routinely served FROM the animal as a display
Bottom line, it’s your wedding and you know if your guests will be all high and mighty about this or not. If you have a group of chill people coming to your wedding, why not? If your guests are the sanitized type, then you may want to change where it is displayed if at all. I’m sure you know your guests best! (Maybe ask a couple of them, take an unofficial poll on it?)
Post # 58
@MightySapphire – I understand where you’re coming from, and you definitely make valid points. But don’t forget that plenty of people did read the post entirely and responded as such. Lumping all the responses together isn’t any better than those who didn’t read the post thoroughly. I agree that the OP knows her guests best, and besides, they are coming to her wedding to celebrate her marriage.
But I would argue that though our species is omnivorous, it’s no longer an issue of survival to eat meat. We’re lucky enough to live in a time where a person can be just as healthy on a strictly vegetarian or vegan diet as they would be on an omnivorous diet. I wouldn’t call it barbaric to eat meat, but I don’t think it’s necessary. I think that some of the people (not all, I’m sure) were asking if anyone abstained from pork specifically, since some meat eaters do whether it’s because they keep kosher or for other reasons.
Post # 59
As a general rule, I think people should be much more aware of where our food is coming from. I’m just not sure a wedding is the place to put it on display. I have been to a pig roast once- I wasn’t disgusted, but I didn’t find it super appetizing either.
Post # 60
@stephanie – if there was still hair on the pig, then whoever roasted it did it wrong. When the pig is butchered beforehand (not cut up the meat, just removing the organs), generally you burn all the hair off (no one wants fur on their plate!), then cook it whole.
I think it would be very cool to have the whole pig displayed (a few may be a little put off, but if you’d like to accommodate them, I’d consider a second buffet line or area where they can get their food without getting face to face with the pig.) I considered doing the hog-roast option, but would like my wedding to stand apart from my family’s graduation and fourth of july parties, but it’s delicious & certainly not tacky! Like others have said, you know your guests better than we do – maybe even ask a few of your guests/family what they think.
A lot of times when people have hog roasts the head is removed beforehand – would that compromise work for you? you could still display the whole pig body, but wouldnt include the part so many on this thread seem to find a problem with. Ask your caterer if that is an option they offer.
Post # 61
I would have the pig out of the way a bit.
In college, I was a little sister to a fraternity and every year they’d have a huge party called pig roast. I went to quite a few of them, but once I ventured out to where they were cooking the pig and it kinda grossed me out!
I think the guys would take turns rotating the pig and basting things, but the girls kinda just steered clear of it. It wasn’t very fun imho to see, but the guys enjoyed hanging around the guys roasting it, drinking beer, and having fun.
Later on when the meal was finished, the dj would spin tunes and we had a blast!
I think it’s a fine idea, and you’re being sensitive to the needs of your vegan guests by providing them a meal that would be appropriate for them, but maybe not having the pig roasting front and center would be good. I mean, I’m a meat-eater, but just didn’t care for seeing the whole pig yanno?