- 5 years ago
- Wedding: December 2014
So SO was in the kitchen tonight making his dinner (I’m not feeling well, so I didn’t feel like eating/cooking) and all of a sudden he walks in the living room and goes “so I was thinking… I don’t think I want any kids afterall.” Well, I knew this wasn’t true right off the bat, since we both know that we want 4 kids.
So I say “Oh yes you do. And plus, you know that I won’t even consider marrying you if you don’t want kids.” and he said he knows, and that he was kidding (all while smiling). So I continue on by saying “so when do you want to start having kids?” and he goes “Oh, I don’t know… I don’t want to wait too long after we’re married… what about you” And I said “well, I’ve had a life plan, but it hasn’t gone as planned so far…” “what exactly was that plan?” “You know, graduate by 22 (didn’t happen), married by 24, but that wont happen since I’m 24 now, and start having kids by 26.”
And he said “Why do you think we won’t be married by then?” To which I said “because I’m already 24! You’d have to formally propose to me like tomorrow!” and he said “no way… it doesn’t take that long to plan a wedding. You can totally be married before you turn 25.” “No we can’t… you always said you wanted your (twin) sister at your wedding, but she’s overseas for a few more years.” And he said “LeonardLady, if we waited until she is home, we won’t be able to get married until 2015. She got married without me there, so she can’t expect me to wait for her for me to get married.”
I turn 25 in August (He’s 29). And he’s actually pretty right… it won’t take us that long to plan a wedding, since we already know we both want a reeeeally small wedding (and I already have most of it planned anyways!).
So I don’t know if this was a hint that he’s going to propose sometime soon, in order to be married before August 2014… or if he was just talking just to talk. Ugh. Boys.
I’m so confused… do you guys think this means that he might propose kinda soon? Or is it all just a hypothetical conversation?
(For those of you who may bring it up… yes, we have talked about kids/marraige seriously LOTS in the past. Just this is the first time he’s actually somewhat mentioned a date. But, he 100% refuses to give me a ‘timeline’ or give me a hint as to when he may do it… not out of coldfeet or fear, but for surprise factor. We’ve been together for two years and own a house together.)