- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2013
We are looking at May 2013 for our reception (we’re already married — city hall ceremony). Its slightly possible that we would do it in September of this year, as thats our 1 year anniversary, but May is more appealing to us.
I have always dreamed of having a wedding in my parent’s backyard. They live in upstate New York in a small town. Our home is a victorian farmhouse that sits on 8.5 acres of land. It has a view of the Catskill Mountains, a columned porch, a stone patio, a couple of large lawns, trees/forest, gardens, and of course, tons of sentimental value. My brother beat me to it and had his wedding there about 7 years ago. It was great. And I think mine could be better. 😉
It also needs a TON of work. The grounds need to be kept, the inside of the house needs to be cleaned & de-cluttered (in a pretty serious way), cars (and parts cars, along with tractors and back hoes and boats and all kinds of “toys”) need to be temporarily relocated, refrigerators need to be brought inside, the garage may need to be cleaned out, a couple of things need structural fixing (they’re on top of it, they’ve hired someone)…. All of these things are on “the list” anyway if only to improve the quality of life for everyone living there.
My sister in law BEGS me to have the wedding there. She thinks it will be the motivation to get everything in ship shape, and she also has a vision of turning the place into a bonafide wedding venue, and wants photos of the grounds hosting a wedding.
Two problems (not including the shape of things)
1. My parents aren’t in the best of health. Specifically, my mother was just diagnosed with heart failure, and though she’s feeling better these days, she’s not always up for a lot of work. She claims that I can “have whatever I want” and that the stuff (ie. fixing) will be done by the time that the wedding rolls around, but there’s a confidence that I’m lacking in that. My husband and I can DEFINITELY pull our weight in getting things fixed up, but we live a couple of hours away and can only be there on the weekends (I can be there all summer if need be… I’m a teacher). Getting things shaped up will benefit everyone, but I’m worried about the stress/work of hosting a wedding (but it WILL be catered, etc.).
2. I planned a wedding there already. I was engaged once before, began the planning stages of a wedding that never happened (thankfully). It doesn’t feel “fresh”, but then again, new guy, new ideas, new love. Its all new outside of the venue.
I’ve been searching high and low for a venue that compares — I’ve looked for horse farms, agricultural farms, flower farms, botanical gardens, etc.etc.etc. but can’t find exactly what I’m looking for.