(Closed) A Thank you Text?

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Not way off base, that girl is obnoxious. I wouldn’t give her a dang thing extra, either.

If I were mean, I’d send her a card with $20 and say ‘here’s your shower gift, and a bill for my time and labor in making the cupcakes since you’ve decided they weren’t a gift.’ Rawr.

Post # 4
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1944 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

@tootietoo2:

No and I wouldn’t attend either. She seems to be all about appearances and I have a feeling this shall blow up in her face someday.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@indibee: I love that idea!!

That’s ridiculous, and I would tell her how hurtful her words were.  I would be devastated if someone did that to me…

Post # 6
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1501 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think that is an awesome gift you gave her. Nothing is more valuable than your time. Those cupcakes sound amazing! They should of let people know that you did them, since they obviously compare to the expensive bakery ones.

I’d be steaming mad if I were you. But I think you’ll just have to let it go and not be involved in this wedding any more. Sounds like she is just after materialistic things.

Post # 7
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5296 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 1993

say you’d love to help with the wedding. and then just give the ingredients. since apparently that’s the important part.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I’m not going to lie, but I was eating pretzel thins and as I was reading this:

he said she didn’t want it to seem that I hadn’t given any gift because she & her mother didn’t want the guests to know that I baked the cupcakes; they told people they were from the expensive bakery. She then added that it wasn’t like I really even gave a gift because her mother paid for the ingredients.

my jaw fell open and the pretzel thin I was going to chomp on fell out of my mouth.  Absolutely shocking.  I can’t believe you didn’t punch her in the head when she said that.  I don’t blame you at all for not going to the wedding. I can’t believe she had the cajones to even suggest you bake for her wedding!!!!!!!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

You are not off base at all.  You are right.  She was wrong, ungrateful and dishonest. (telling the guests the cupcakes were from the bakery instead of from you – shame on them!)

Post # 10
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7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

I would have told everyone that I baked those darn cupcakes while I was there. What a snoot

Post # 12
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

I didn’t think much of it until one of the older ladies did the favor of mentioning to me that it is in poor taste to attend a shower without bringing a gift

i hope you told her that your gift was baking the cupcakes that everyone seems to be enjoying

IF you get an invite, decline nicely with a card saying you have donated $$$ in her honor for a charity with a weird name – retired clown jugglers or something like that 🙂

 

Post # 13
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2496 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

@tootietoo2: I would send a card with a bill detailing all the time and effort you put into the cupcakes and how much that time will cost since it wasn’t a gift.

Man… i’m pissed for you!!!

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

oh my! my SIL is making the cupcakes for our wedding and i told her she could make whatever kind she wanted and id help pay and she told me no that they were a gift. since she is footing the whole bill we paid for the tux and flower girl dress for her kids that are both in the wedding party (how cute are twins walking hand in hand with a ring pillow and flowers…swoon) but we are also getting her a lovely gift because she had me go with her to pick out the cupcake decor and i know it wasnt cheap but i wasnt allowed to know the prices.

Post # 15
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726 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow, I would be PISSED and even if it meant ruining the friendship (doesn’t sound like much of a friend to begin with though), I would be VERY TEMPTED to send her an itemized bill saying if it wasn’t considered a gift, then she has 30 days to pay what she owes. And I really do hope you told the lady who informed you that you didn’t bring a gift that you in fact made all those delicious cupcakes. I would’ve been livid.

Post # 16
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2011

Holy Shit!  That was my reaction when I read this.  That has got to be the most horrid, self involved and unacceptable behavior from an adult person I’ve heard about in a long time.  How did you respond to the text asking you to make more cupcakes?

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