Post # 1
I know many of us come on here to vent when wedding planning is stressful, but I’m seriously in chill mode. We are probably 80 something days away. First fitting is two weeks from tomorrow, along with wedding hair trial and shower. The guest list is closed. As much as I would love to have all of my friends there, I am committed to a small wedding for me. Now that I am standing in that, it is so much easier to be chill. These days, I focus on day to day life and enjoying Fiance. I feel so much more comfortable with myself.. how I look, how I feel, what I choose to do, that I have in recent memory. I’ve worked hard to get here…I had a lot of days of anxiety. But by focusing on my faith and myself, things have gotten a lot better.
Is anyone else enjoying this time? Being chill? This is YOUR thread….
Post # 2
I’m not a chill bride, but I wish I was! I envy you!
Post # 3
I was a very chill bride. We got discounts and freebies from a few of our vendors because we were so relaxed, easy to work with, and focused on our marriage rather than the wedding lol. I promise, if you stay chill you will enjoy your wedding day 100000 times more.
Hooray for chill brides!
Post # 4
reading your post made me feel so zen!
I think I am chill. I have just under 6 months to go so I might change my tune closer to our wedding. But for some reason I’m super zen about everything? I seem to have this mindset of it’ll all work out in the end, or I’m ok that every little detail of my wedding isn’t going to be perfect.
Post # 5
That’s awesome! I got married 2 weeks ago and was also pretty darn chill 🙂 The day went really smoothly, I think keeping a relaxed attitude helped with that (a couple glasses of champagne probably helped, too).
I hope your day goes just as smoothly!
Post # 6
I was uber chill, until about 15 days ago. That crap hit the fan. Now i’m anal and overworked. Good times, eh?
Post # 7
I was super chill except for maybe the last minute planning a couple weeks before the wedding.
I remember right before the wedding, one of the roses broke off from my bouquet. The church wedding coordinator was freaking out “What should we do? Should we glue it back on?” and I was like…just throw it away? Why is this a big deal? And she was stunned. I just don’t understand freaking out over certain things haha. The guys had some last minute wedding near-disasters, but I had no idea about any of it until afterwards, so the wedding day itself was super chill for me.
Post # 8
while my wedding was 2 years ago, i had the easiest engagement/wedding planning time. i didn’t see what was so stressful about it. my engagement was 7 months. we booked the vendors, asked the wedding party, made the guest list. everything fell into place perfectly and everyone got along.
a friend of mine got engaged last year and i told her how easy it was. she had the exact opposite experience, she said it was a very stressful time for her.
Post # 9
I haven’t really stressed much about the wedding, but I was also lucky in that my family and friends aren’t problem makers. I read stories about Future In-Laws and parents and bridal parties and friends being insane and the bride having to deal with it all. My parents and Future In-Laws of course have done the occasional thing that leaves me going uggh, but nothing that actually registers on the weddingbee scale of insanity.
We’ll see what happens closer to the date. I already have most of my DIY stuff done or well underway & I hired a planner to avoid being a stressed out bride, but you never know.
Post # 10
I had a lot of DIY projects so I was a bit stressed before the wedding but once the rehearsal dinner started into the wedding day, I was calm, no stress, and happy as a clam. Not nervous, not anxious, just excited and happy.
I was relatively stress free through most of the planning compared to other brides I’ve been told, but most of it was emotional stuff with my mom that got me worked up.
Post # 11
I, too, was a very chill bride during the planning the process. The most stress I had was dealing with some things with my mom (visions she had versus visions I/DH had). But, I tried not too stress too much as i wanted to enjoy this time… we only had an 8 month engagement.
I was really organized with what needed to be done, and maybe nagged DH a few times about things he offerred to help with that I felt should have been done WAY before they were. But, they eventually got done.
I didn’t want to feel like I was bothering people with my planning, so I kept a lot of it to myself or with my parents/in-laws and made sure my bridal party was always in the loop. I didn’t care what shoes my gals wore, but my sister found some that my other Bridesmaid or Best Man (SIL) also wanted to get so they matched – which worked out great. I didn’t want to set rules or guidelines, as I had seen many other brides due and it may not have worked out. We kept it small, too… which helped. Small ceremony but larger reception. Everything was simple, but yet still personalized. I didn’t go all out on flowers or decor, as we wanted our money spent in other places instead.
We were still doing stuff the week of the wedding, but it was little things. I don’t recall any major diastors happening at all, or at least that I didn’t know about anyway. Family pitched in on helping decorate our reception hall the morning of, although it wasn’t much so that was nice. I was happy to have an aunt there when the cake showed up so she could tell them what to do, or what not to do (she’s in catering). But again, I didn’t know that until WAY later and wold have been fine with whatever was done.
I may should have cared more, but it all worked out and we had a great wedding daY1
Post # 12
cruisinbee: I am, but we are a year away still so who knows what I’ll be like in 6 months 🙂
Post # 13
Im 7 months out and at first was a stressed bride but then had a moment of clarity and decided it was best to chill out… it helps that my Fiance is super involved in the planning so we are both having fun and enjoying the planning process together.
Post # 14
I am trying to be fairly chill. I did get a bit worked up over some issues with the guest list and addressing the envelopes, but for bridesmaids, I would prefer to let them wear whatever they want and not even worry about it. The thing is, I think some of my bridesmaids are annoyed and WANT me to dictate what to wear!
but I am not worrying about decorations, details of the food, even my dress – I’m just going to order a few styles in a few sizes from jcrew and BHLDN and return all but my favorite.
Post # 15
We have 1 week left and I’m trying to relax, but as we get closer more surprises keep popping up. I just keep making a noise like Tina Belcher from Bob’s Burgers anytime someone asks about it…