(Closed) A thread for chill brides…

posted 4 years ago in Beehive
Post # 16
1210 posts
Bumble bee

Despite being engaged for only 5 months, we had a really relaxed planning experience. Booked the church, venue, caterer, DJ, and photographer, which was easy because there were slim pickings 5 months out.

Everything else, I could not have cared any less. Bought the cheapest invites I could find. No flowers. Bridesmaids wore whatever black dress they wanted, groomsmen wore whatever gray suit they had. I bought my dress after less than 45 minutes of shopping.  We didn’t have wedding “colors” or a theme. I was just happy to be getting married and to have all our family and friends there to celebrate!

The one moment I regret was around 15 minutes before I walked down the aisle when I was getting really nervous. I had been stress-free all morning (except trying to find a cab during uber surge pricing!) but then my mom came up to me and was like “Wait, we didn’t figure out who I am going to walk down the aisle with!!!!”. I said, “Please go away, figure something out, and don’t tell me about it.” It was pretty awful of me to treat my mom like that. My Brother-In-Law ended up walking with her and it was a great way to include him, but I was NOT interested in problem-solving 15 minutes before the ceremony!

Post # 17
245 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

I’m 3 weeks out and overall pretty chill. It’s freaking everyone else out because I’m the opposite of my bridezilla sister who started stressing about everything 6 months before her wedding. I never really expected to ever get married so I’m not trying to achieve a bunch of high expectations and I think that helps a lot. I just go with the flow and do stuff as inspiration strikes me :). Cheers to my fellow chill ladies! 

Post # 18
267 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

leathernlace:  When is your date?  I’m Nov. 14 and super chill as well!

Post # 19
213 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

amygdala: YES, me too. I know one of my bridesmaids is mad that I’m not picking matching dresses for them. I realise that it might be easier to just hand over your credit card instead of shopping for your own Bridesmaid or Best Man dress (from your closet or a store), but I don’t think it’s unreasonable if that’s what the bride wants…

Post # 20
287 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015 - Ballroom

I’m a little over a month out from my Big Day. We’ve been engaged since December 2014, and it’s been a very smooth road. Fiance and I agreed on basically everything, with him deferring to me on stylistic stuff. One Bridesmaid or Best Man (FI’s sister) started to give me a bit of attitude about who was/wasn’t invited to a shower, but I just ignored her attempt at creating drama, and it went away.  Only stress now is waiting for straggler guests to send in their RSVPs. That’s annoying! 

Post # 21
5188 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

I was a chill bride. We had about 110 guests and I don’t remember ever losing my shit over anything. I seriously hope the vent posts really are just venting, and that these women are not literally crying because their Maid/Matron of Honor has a life beyond the wedding or their veil doesn’t match the napkins.

Post # 22
7136 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I was a super chill bride. To this day everyone, including my BM’s, all talk about how I really was just “go with the flow”. My secret? Delegate!!! Hire vendors you 100% trust, and then just let them do their job. In all fairness, I’m a wedding photographer so I knew without a doubt my vendors were going to take care of me and do a good job, and while I “planned” my wedding myself – I did have a Day of Coordinator and they really are the best gift a bride can give herself.

I have only 2 freak-outs the entire process, and those really I kept to myself. One was with the invitation lady, and the other was my hairdresser (not her fault, her dad passed away 3 days before my wedding and she had to go out of town for it). Both situations were handled and the show went on.

Post # 23
5364 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2016

I’m also very chill. We’ve been engaged over a year and have less than 7 months now. We’re having a small, family only, wedding in Hawaii. It’s basically going to be a once in a lifetime huge family vacation and we’re just gonna get married one of the days there lol. I just don’t think there’s anurging to freak out over.

Post # 24
4243 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Oh being chill is the WAY TO GO.  We’ve been married for two months already and honestly I really didn’t freak out over anything.  My dad however?  TOTAL dadzilla.  That was what created the stress in my wedding planning because he was absolutely bonkers.  We’re talking wanted us to have a “water” theme complete with customized water bottles with our faces on them, wanting to bring traffic cones to the church the night before so he could block off his spot in the parking lot (I’m not kidding…) freaking out over the unity candle not being in the right place on the altar, checked in at the reception venue the morning of with gardening tools in hand to make sure the landscaping was done (we were the first ones to have a reception at this particular venue), and generally freaking out about literally EVERYTHING…  I woke up that morning at my parents’ house and I was the calm one in the house.  At that point there was really nothing I could do and I knew I had my ducks in a row.  I was also very calm the entire day.  I actually had to turn to my dad right before we walked down the aisle and ask him “Dad, are YOU ok??” because he was so stressed out and uptight about everrrrything.  My now bros in law actually found it hilarious.  One turned to me the day of and said “ljm I love that you are such a sea of calm, but your dad is crazy!!” haha.

So long story short, it’s super super super important to realize that at the end of the day it is only one day of your entire life.  I know it’s a super important day, but it goes so fast there’s no point in worrying or stressing out over stupid stuff.  No one will care if the tablecloths aren’t the right shade of white, or that the centerpieces aren’t exactly like the ones you saw on Pinterest, or if your dress doesn’t fit JUST SO. They will see a gorgeous woman getting married to the man/woman she loves.  It’s not worth the stress.

Post # 25
3306 posts
Sugar bee

I’d class myself as pretty chill, but I wasn’t before we booked our venue, I was seriously frustrated.

I’ve told my girls so long as their dresses are in the same colour range and long and flowy, I don’t care what they wear. Shoes, don’t care, won’t see them. Hair & Makeup, have it done pro or don’t, up to them…

I designed my dress in under an hour and the consultant loved me because I was totally chilled out about it lol.

I think I’d be less chilled if we had an engagement under 12 months long though.


Post # 26
3539 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

cruisinbee:  the closer to the wedding we get, the more laid back I am about everything. We at getting married on a cruise and having a hell of a time trying to get dinner reservations that night for 8 of us (my step mom has been working on this for 6 weeks. I just have to laugh when she gives me updates; shes definetly more stressed than I am. 

only thing I was really stressed out about was finding a wedding ring because I thought I wouldn’t find a ring I loved that looked good with my ering. But Fiance just came home tonight after purchasing the one I decided on. 

52 more days! 

Post # 27
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2016

I’ve been really chilled about things so far, I am hoping that it continues this way. The only little iffy that I had come up was when my guest list jumped from 35 to 50 and then to 75. Other than that, very relaxed. 

Post # 28
245 posts
Helper bee

i was pretty chilled, even more than i expected. i didn’t want a pretty-princess day and i can never be bothered with perfection so i knew i wouldn’t be a particularly stressed bride.

we went to collect my dress 2 days before the wedding only to find out the alterations lady had been ill and my dress wasn’t ready. we reshuffled things, went got our nails done then came back just before the shop closed to pick up the finished dress (fortunately I didn’t need much changing).

seriously, stressing doesn’t achieve anything. think carefully about things, plan well and then let go.

Post # 29
1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2016

*raises hand* I’m a chilled bride!! Granted I’m still 8 months out.

My sister got married recently and was a very last minute bride. To the point that the week before the wedding, while she was working, my mom and I were racing around organizing escort cards, table numbers, guest book, finalizing flowers, finalizing seating arrangements, making sure all the guests had accommodation sorted, etc. In the end, the wedding was an absolute dream and all the guests raved about how it was one of the best weddings they’d ever attended.

Going through that made me realize how it’s so not worth stressing over the tiny details and instead just focusing on making sure the guests are accommodated for and having a good time. It has turned me into the ultimate chill-bride!


Post # 30
755 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

3 months out, super relaxed about it all and I have LOVED every second of wedding planning. Admittedly I’m hiring a coordinator on the day to take care of last minute dramas but I can’t see much going too drastically wrong as our whole day is ultra laid back – our friend is marrying us in the beautiful community garden at the end of our street, followed by a reception at our favourite local restaurant 5 mins away… So I’ve got absolutely everything organised, all the bits & pieces are booked, and I’m now just sitting back getting excited about marrying the guy of my dreams!!! 

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