(Closed) A TON of questions for you!

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
715 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

For the reception only invitation, many brides who get married in the temple and only have a reception say something like this;

Please join us in the celebration of our marriage on DATE at LOCATION or something along those lines.

Post # 4
3977 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

1. Well, it depends on how formal you want to be. What Miss Snowball said is spot on for formal wording. Since it is a potluck I think you can be much more informal if you’d like to be. Even like: “Jack and Jill are newlyweds! We would love for you to join us at a reception celebrating our recent marriage.” Then mention any of the potluck details and find a tactful way to mention whether or not gifts are expected/accepted/or not requested. Probably should send then 2 months out, maybe a bit more.

2. Generally for weddings it’s around a month before  that an RSVP is expected. It depends on what planning changes you’ll need to make based on numbers. Since it’s a potluck I guess food isn’t a problem. Are you doing things like centerpieces or tablecloths where the number of guests would need to be pretty certain beforehand? I’d say 3 weeks before should be sufficient.

3. You said the ceremony is only for wedding party and family….maybe your family is a ton bigger than mine but can’t you just ask them each if they want to stay and tell then where to book? Maybe I’m visualizing the numbers wrong, but that’s usually like 30 people right? Are formal invites and room blocking really necessary?

4. I’d say no website since it’s a small ceremony followed a lot later by an informal party. There can’t be a ton of info they’d need that they wouldn’t know who to contact about.

5. Yea, that’s creepy. First date at a very intimate wedding with only family. Even if he himself isn’t strange, I imagine he would be extremely uncomfortable in that situation. I’d talk her out of it if I were you.

Post # 7
3977 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

1. No I get what you’re saying, but since most of the reception people won’t be at the ceremony I think it would be much more confusing to say upcoming wedding and they arrive to find you’ve been married for 2 weeks, lol. Maybe you could say “to celebrate their new marriage” more vague so it doesn’t mess with the timeline 🙂

2. okay, then even 1 to 2 weeks would be fine. The same as you would do for a big birthday party. I’d assume the RSVP’s will be coming to either your Future Mother-In-Law or your future aunt so maybe you can ask them what sort of notice they’d like to have for planning purposes.

3. woah! I thought my wedding was medium sized at we had 100! Well, when the numbers are so up in the air it’s hard to really plan on how many blocked rooms. Why don’t you call the hotel and ask their policy and explain your situation to someone in charge who has some experience. They may have tips or procedures that could help you. And it might depend on their policies, I know some hotels don’t block rooms at all and I think some require a fee, etc.

4. You could always make a facebook event/page style thing for people to leave wishes and stuff, but the formal websites are more about things like transportation to the reception and attire and the story of our relationship and all that jazz, seems like too much for your affair 🙂

Post # 9
3977 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

3. No I think it’s totally acceptable to let them make their own arragnements. As long as you give them enough notice it’s fine, especially in January when I doubt a resort area will be heavily booked.

4. People usually make the assumption based on the formality of your invitations. Casual invitation mean more casual attire is acceptable. I don’t think you need to write anything unless you really want black tie or something like that. If it doesn’t matter to you if every guy is wearing a jacket then just leave it off.

Post # 11
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2013 - Home

Although it may be awkward, her bringing Mr. Online is actually a very safe way to meet him in person.

Post # 13
3267 posts
Sugar bee

I’m not Beingewe but I suspect she means because she would be in a public place surrounded by lots of people looking out for her.


Though if your wedding is so far ahead isn’t it likely that they will have met before January?

Post # 15
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

The other issue with the online guy is what if they don’t get along?  How much would that suck if she invited him for a weekend away and then had to babysit him the whole time and wouldn’t even enjoy his company?  I think you should really push your friend to have at least 1-2 dates in person with this guy before she brings him to your wedding.  Maybe you can even offer to double date, and meet him at a movie theater or something, so your friend has a safe and low-pressure option to invite him for.

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