Post # 1
The previous thread about hugging/receiving lines got me thinking.
I’m a hugger. My family hugs everyone. Friend? We’ll hug you. Cousin’s new girlfriend? You’re getting hugs from 6+ people. We just love hugging. So I’m fine with the hugs we’ll get from people.
However, my back is extremely sensitive. There have been numerous times where well meaning friends/family give the ‘pat on the back’ and it truly brings me to tears. I get nervous that this may happen on our big day, and I’ll be holding back tears or ruining my makeup. What would be a polite way to ask people to refrain from ‘patting’ or ‘slapping’ the bride’s back? Would a little note on the program be useful? Something about the bride welcoming hugs but due to some sensitivity, please refrain from pats on the back? Would guests be off-put by this? I think I’ve seen this issue talked about (not on WB) by brides with fibromyalgia. Any tips, bees?
Post # 3
I’d have your parents and wedding party politely remind guests that you have a very sensitive back. I wouldn’t be put off or offended, I’d be very careful. Maybe have your Fiance there, to kind of shield you in a way.
Post # 4
Hold hands and kiss on the cheeck saying you don’t want to mess up your hair with lots of hugs??
Post # 5
I don’t know if I would put it in the program but I might have parents mentioning it (have them before you in the receiving line).
Post # 6
@ejs1228: Good idea!
Yeah, I would just not hug. They’ll forget. Bend over to give a kiss and if someone goes in for the hug (you know what I mean) then politely say “Oh, no hugging today!” Put your arm out as you say it to stiff arm the hug. Then say “But I will give you a kiss on the cheek, thank you for being here.”
Post # 7
Have key people mention to others that your back is sensitive so it will be necessary to refrain from hugs. Have you ever noticed that Oprah rarely hugs guests on her show; she puts out her hands and they clasp hands. You could also do side-hugs too. By any chance is your dress poofy enough that it would make it awkward to hug?
Post # 8
@Birdie Love:Yeah, I try to do the Oprah thing…I’m always uncomfortable giving hugs especially to males for some reason, like Fiance’s dad. It’s the epitome of awkwardness when he tries to give me a hug–I’m like “oh gawd”
Post # 9
Thanks bees! I like the Oprah hand-hold idea, too. It’s still warm/inviting but helps to avoid some of the ‘pat-happy’ friends and family. Haha. Lots of good ideas, I appreciate it!