Post # 1
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Busy bee
The basics are that I (the bride) will be walking down the aisle alone, and I have 2 divorced parents that I NEED to keep separate but treat as equally as possible. Those two aspects cannot be changed.
I have 3 bridesmaids, 3 groomsmen, 1 Jr. Bridesmaid, a Flower Girl, and a Ring Bearer. Before I had a chance to talk it over, my Mother called and asked her brother to walk her, so that’s another factor.
Below was my original plan, but now I’m unsure of if having the Bride’s Mother go first is incorrect? I originally thought that being first was a great honor, but it seems to be the opposite? I also wanted to keep all the bridesmaids proceeding one after the other since they all have matching dresses and the mothers don’t. 
I dislike that the Jr. Bridesmaid is going down the aisle with a (much older) Groomsman…but I can’t think of what else to do. Do I consider asking a Groomsman to walk alone?
So what’s everyone’s advice? One of these? Something different?
Also any advice that my parents can set aside their differences for our day is really sweet…but it’s really just not going to happen.
Post # 4
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Busy Beekeeper
Who is your Jr Bridesmaid? Any chance of her walking with your dad? That might be less awkward than her walking with a 20- or 30-something, especially if she and your dad are related. That would also allow your Maid/Matron of Honor to walk with the Best Man. Plus, the bridesmaids usually come in in order of farthest from you to nearest. So you you could have:
Bride’s mom escorted by bride’s uncle
Groom’s mom escorted by groom’s dad
Jr. bridesmaid escorted by bride’s dad – he takes a seat, she proceeds to alter
Bridesmaid or Best Man3 escorted by Groomsmen3
Bridesmaid or Best Man2 escorted by Groomsmen2
Maid/Matron of Honor escorted by Best Man
Ring bearer
Flower girl
BRIDE!
If Jr Bridesmaid or Best Man is on your mom’s side, that might not work, and in that case I would find some other special female to walk dad down the aisle since you said you want mom and dad to be “equal.” Even though Maid/Matron of Honor is your sister/his daughter, I think having him walk with the Maid/Matron of Honor makes him seem more important than mom. Then just have the Jr Bridesmaid or Best Man walk down the aisle solo, kind of starting up the “official” bridal party processional.
Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
I think plan 1 looks great! you know what will work best for you and this looks pretty darn good!
Also I think having your mom go first is fine!
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
I don’t have much advice about the tricker bits, but technically, the groom’s parents should go first, and your Maid/Matron of Honor should be the last bridesmaid.
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
I think dad should just walk alone. Or if he doesn’t want to walk alone he can find his own escort like your mom did. But the bridesmaids should walk with the grooms men and the junior bridesmaid should walk alone. I’m pretty sure the Bride’s mom goes first.
Bride’s mom- Bride’s uncle
Groom’s mom- Groom’s dad
Bride’s dad solo (or with date or other relative)
Maid/Matron of Honor – Best man
Bridesmaid or Best Man1 – Groomsmen1
Bridesmaid or Best Man2 – Groomsmen2
Junior bridesmaid
ring bearer
flower girl
