- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
And so began the ceremony. Two things before we begin: My husband and I are not religious, so we wanted to make the ceremony our own and leave the presence of “God” out, because we did not want to start our marriage vowing to something we didn’t believe in. For that reason, I wrote the cermony, and I don’t think it was lacking in any way. We also wrote out own vows.
Also, my twin sister is deaf, so you will see a woman in a black dress with a white sweater interpreting the ceremony for her. She is an amazing interpreter, and worked with my sister for years. We were so happy to have her there that day, helping my sister experiene the wedding with the rest of us.
“Ladies and Gentlemen, we are gathered here today to witness the marriage of Andrew Thomas Maxwell and Elizabeth Ann Montgomery. Who presents this woman to be married to this man?”
“Her mother and I do.”
(This next part seem silly, but the delcaration of intent is supposedly required in the state of Alabama for the marriage to be legal, so I put it in there anyway.)
“Andrew, are you here today, of your own free will and do you intend enter into the bonds of marriage with Liza?”
“Liza, are you here today, of your own free will and do you intend to enter into the bonds of marriage with Andrew?”
“Ladies and Gentlemen, in addition to traditional vows, Andrew and Liza have decided to share their own vows to one another that they have written themselves. Andrew:”
“Liza, when I first met you it was in a coffee shop. And the funny thing is that I don’t like coffee. I had no idea that when I sat across from you then, that I would be standing across from you today. There was always something special about you, it just took me a few years to see it. But when I did, I knew I was never going to let you go.”
“I love you because of your determination. When you set your mind to something, you don’t give up until you’ve achieved it. Such as the case with me. You never gave up we should be together. And you were right. I love you because of your creativity. You have the ability to take something and make it into a piece of art. And because of that, you give me creativity. I love you because you make me smile, you make me laugh, and you make me happier than I’ve ever been. I also love you because you get my sense of humor…most of the time.”
“And because I love you, I vow to always be by your side, to make you laugh and smile. I vow to get you an ice cream sandwich if I’m standing in the kitchen. And because of all these things and more, I vow to always be yours through the hard times and the good. Whatever is thrown at us, I know we can overcome it as long as we face it together. Come What May.”
“Andrew Maxwell – From the moment I met you, I knew there was something special about you. I don’t know whether I would call it “love at first sight,” but I definitely had a strange feeling the first time we shook hands and introduced ourselves. Still, to this day, I cannot find the words to describe that feeling, but something was telling me to keep an eye on you: that you would be important somehow. Little did I know that meant that five years later, I would be standing in front of you in my wedding gown, trying to remember everything I wrote for this moment, but I could not possibly be happier.”
“I love the way you make me smile and laugh until I can’t breathe. I love the way you look at me and make me feel like the most beautiful woman on the face of the planet. I love the way you hold me tight in those moments when everything falls apart. I love the way you smile at me, and when you tell me you love me, out of the blue. I love the way you give me forehead kisses, and how your hand fits perfectly in mine. I love the way you bring out the kid in me and how you support me in everything I do. I love the way you push me to grow as a person, and be the best I can be.”
“And because I love you, I promise to never get “too old” for our childish sense of humor. I promise to hold you close in those moments when it feels like life couldn’t get worse. I promise to work through any problems we may have, because this relationship is more than worth it… even if you won’t get me an ice cream sandwich from the freezer. I promise to support you in your dreams and goals and do everything I can to help you achieve them.”
“Andrew, I never thought it was possible to be as happy as I am with you. As my dad said a while back, we aren’t just becoming husband and wife. We are becoming lifelong partners-in-crime. I am so incredibly lucky to be able to marry such a wonderful man, and I can’t wait to see what kind of mischief we can get into with you by my side. I love you more than anything and I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you.”
“Andrew, will you now repeat after me:
I, Andrew, take you Liza to be my lawfully wedded wife. To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do us part.”
“Liza, will you now repeat after me:
I, Liza, take you Andrew to be my lawfully wedded husband. To have and to hold from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish until death do us part.”
“The bride and groom will now exchange rings. Andrew, repeat after me:
I give you this ring that has no beginning and no ending, which symbolizes that the love between us will never cease. I place it on your finger as a visible sign of the vows which have made us husband and wife. “
“Liza, repeat after me:
I give you this ring that has no beginning and no ending, which symbolizes that the love between us will never cease. I place it on your finger as a visible sign of the vows which have made us husband and wife.”
(And of course I got nervous and couldn’t remember which hand it went on so I asked my husband to give me which hand it went on, which caused quite a bit of laughter)
“By the power vested in me by the state of Alabama, I now declare you husband and wife.”
“You may kiss the bride.”
“Ladies and gentlemen, may I now present to you for the first time, Mr. and Mrs. Andrew and Liza Maxwell!”
REO Speedwagon’s “I Can’t Fight This Feeling Anymore” started playing, and we walked out of the ceremony, HUSBAND AND WIFE!
And of course, everyone filed out behind us:
My mom’s a ham and did this directly into one of our video cameras. Still cracks me up!