Post # 1
Sooo, I went into this weekend with an inlking that it would finally be my time to get engaged. It didn’t turn out that way, and thats ok. Everything just compounded and made it a bad holiday weekend.
First, my cousin came in to visit over the weekend. We were out at dinner, and before we even sat down she announced that her and her boyfriend just got engaged the night before. (her fiance was there… and my boyfriend was there…. so I had to pretend to be uber excited. we got invited out for the wedding, but that’s not going to work out anyway. Then, My guy and I had a special day/night planned just for us. we were going to go see a lovely christmas light display, but it rained… All… day. On the car ride back home, we were talking about rings again… and he said he did not have a specific ring in mind when he said to me “I’ve got one picked out.” he just meant he knew exactly what style he wanted….. so, i’m frustrated that our plans didn’t work out, I’m frustrated that he is not in the process of purchasing a ring, and I’m frustrated that it isn’t my turn yet, dang it!
It’s been over 5 years now, and the longer I wait the shorter my fuse gets. I know this happens to every waiting girl, but I just HATE seeing other people get what I want so badly! They dont even have careers yet!
Sometimes I wish that my guy was so madly in love with me that he would not think twice about proposing right now… but I guess i’m not that lucky. (yeah, yeah, it’ll be special when it happens, but the wait is taking a lot of the romanticism out of it.)
Post # 3
I totally feel you, MissPatience! I was in the same exact as you this summer with no end in sight – but now I’m engaged! One thing is that he might be trying to throw you off the scent by saying he doesn’t have an exact one picked out. Or he might be having a hard time picking – I actually ended up showing my Fiance the exact one I wanted, or who knows how much longer it would have taken. But if he really isn’t ready, or wants to save up for a better ring, or is going to take six months to pick, you should know that so you’re not hoping for something that never comes.
Here’s to your wait being over by the new year!
Post # 4
- Wedding: June 2012 - Pippin Hill Farm & Vineyards
I waited four months between when we first looked at rings and when Mr. Mink proposed. He had it planned for a few days, but something always happened (like the rain on your Christmas light watching night).
Do you think he feels that he needs the ring in hand to propose? Plenty of couples shop for the ring together. I picked our setting in early July last year…and got it on Black Friday last year.
Post # 5
I’m right there with you! We started looking into e-rings 2 years ago and I’m still waiting. I don’t know how I manage to muster a smile when another friend of mines tells me their engaged (usually after 1 year)
So I feel your anxiety. On the plus side he knows what he wants to get you/got you already so you may not be waiting much longer 🙂
Post # 6
Misspatience – i can sympathesise too – we first looked at rings last March, and he told me last week i’ll be waiting at least another 6 months. We’ve been together 8 years so i can totally understand the ‘why is everyone else so much more in love with their G/F? than my B/F is with me?’ but I’ve come to realise that the ones (who I know) who have become engaged within a year or so of their relationship still have that new exciting feeling, however they still have many things to experience; first arguement, supporting your partner through bad news, financial problems – and when they do go through these things they think it’s the end (I do also know a couple who have split up after being together for 10 months and engaged for 2 as they couldn’t cope with the above).
At least I know that we have done theses things already, so when I am finally engaged and married there won’t be as many surprises and uncertanties, and that the person that I will marry is the one who I have know for a long time and isn’t likely to change any time soon.
I hope this helps put things into perpective for you like it did me.