(Closed) A Verbal ‘No’ to the Save the Date, Still Send an Invite?!

posted 8 years ago in Paper
  • poll: I would NOT send an invite if their response to the Save the Dates is:
    "I don't think I will be able to attend" : (2 votes)
    10 %
    "I won't be able to attend" : (19 votes)
    90 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    5800 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I would still send them an invite as a courtesy

    Post # 4
    Member
    3564 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would still send them the invitation, out of courtesy. Plus, there’s the chance that things could change and they are in fact able to attend.

    Post # 5
    Member
    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    if it were me. i’d def still send them an invite. If they are invited, then invite them…regardless if they *know* they can’t come. I think just good manners and also plans change.. who knows!

    🙂

    Post # 6
    Member
    1580 posts
    Bumble bee

    I didn’t vote for either. This happened to me and we sent invitations with an additional hand written note saying that we knew they said they wouldn’t be able to make it, and we hope they have a great time on vacation (or whatever) but if their plans change the invitation is, of course, still open!

    And believe it or not, one person’s plans changed and he is now coming to the wedding, so I’m really glad we sent the invitation with the note.

    Post # 7
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    2404 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @Jacqi- i think the written note is such a great idea!! thats awesome they are coming now 🙂

    Post # 8
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    3762 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Manners I think says to send them an invite regardless. 

    Their plans may have changed, even if it was a definite no when the STD was sent.  Also, they may still like to send a wedding gift and they need the invite for that!

    Post # 9
    Member
    1049 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

    We got definite no’s from several people after the STD’s, but sent them invites anyway. First of all, they are still invited. Second, it’s always possible that their plans may fall through and they will be able to come. I think it’s courteous to send the invite – it’ll only cost you a couple extra bucks.

    Post # 10
    Member
    928 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I would still send one out of courtesy. I mean, the only difference is they are telling you now and not after they get the invite.

    Post # 12
    Member
    2207 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    Yeah, we’re still sending invites even if we absolutely know the person won’t come.

    Post # 13
    Member
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I would always send the invitation anyway, both as a matter of courtesy and as a sort of keepsake.  They might send you a gift even if they’re not coming, if you invite them.  🙂

    Post # 14
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    2561 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I would still send an invite (and did so, for the people who told us that they couldn’t make it when the STD’s were sent out)

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