Post # 1
If someone says in passing “I don’t think I will be able to make it to your wedding” or even more direct “I am not going to be able to attend” when they received your Sav the Dates. Should you remove them from your wedding invitation list? Should you keep them on for courtesy. What is the standard??
Post # 3
I would still send them an invite as a courtesy
Post # 4
I would still send them the invitation, out of courtesy. Plus, there’s the chance that things could change and they are in fact able to attend.
Post # 5
if it were me. i’d def still send them an invite. If they are invited, then invite them…regardless if they *know* they can’t come. I think just good manners and also plans change.. who knows!
Post # 6
I didn’t vote for either. This happened to me and we sent invitations with an additional hand written note saying that we knew they said they wouldn’t be able to make it, and we hope they have a great time on vacation (or whatever) but if their plans change the invitation is, of course, still open!
And believe it or not, one person’s plans changed and he is now coming to the wedding, so I’m really glad we sent the invitation with the note.
Post # 7
@Jacqi- i think the written note is such a great idea!! thats awesome they are coming now 🙂
Post # 8
Manners I think says to send them an invite regardless.
Their plans may have changed, even if it was a definite no when the STD was sent. Also, they may still like to send a wedding gift and they need the invite for that!
Post # 9
We got definite no’s from several people after the STD’s, but sent them invites anyway. First of all, they are still invited. Second, it’s always possible that their plans may fall through and they will be able to come. I think it’s courteous to send the invite – it’ll only cost you a couple extra bucks.
Post # 10
I would still send one out of courtesy. I mean, the only difference is they are telling you now and not after they get the invite.
Post # 12
Yeah, we’re still sending invites even if we absolutely know the person won’t come.
Post # 13
I would always send the invitation anyway, both as a matter of courtesy and as a sort of keepsake. They might send you a gift even if they’re not coming, if you invite them. 🙂
Post # 14
I would still send an invite (and did so, for the people who told us that they couldn’t make it when the STD’s were sent out)