(Closed) A Very Controversial "Something Old"

posted 8 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Do you think it's ok to wear a dress from a previous engagement if you never actually married in it
    I'd do it! It's a huge waste of money and resources not to, plus if it's awesome, no reason not to! : (190 votes)
    47 %
    I think it's fine. It's not like you got to wear it & it'll be hard to top if you really loved it... : (101 votes)
    25 %
    I personally wouldn't do it, but I wouldn't judge you if you did. : (90 votes)
    22 %
    The dress is tainted, & folks are going to think you just cut and pasted new groom into old wedding! : (20 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 47
    6256 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2014

    Um, wow! For that dress, I’d do it. 

    Post # 48
    7553 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @TurdFerguson:  It’s gorgeous and you love it…I don’t see any problem here. 

    Post # 49
    963 posts
    Busy bee

    You rejected the groom not the dress – go for it.

    It’s a stunning dress.

    Post # 50
    1081 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013


    I think it is perfectly fine!

    I even asked my Fiance what he thought, and he said “It shouldn’t matter at all. It’s not like the dress represents her ex or her previous relationship in any way, it represents HER because it’s what SHE chose. Obviously there’s something about that dress that she felt was truly HER…”


    I think he put to words pretty well what I feel too. 🙂  And just so you have a male perspective!

    Post # 51
    4605 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    @TurdFerguson:  Um, that dress is spectacular. I stand by my earlier comment and say to definitely wear the dress.

    Post # 52
    3 posts
    • Wedding: April 2012

    Listen to your heart. Everyone can give you their opinions, and they most absolutely will. (Why is it that weddings bring that out in everyone)?…but in the end, its your choice and your wedding, and your dress. Do what you want, not what everyone else wants. I wont even give you my own opinion, because it doesnt matter in the end, does it? 🙂

    Post # 53
    34 posts

    It’s a Claire Pettibone!  You have to wear it!

    Post # 54
    6117 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    If your Fiance is fine with it, then go for it!  I would not, however, tell people it’s my “something old!”  Just no need to!  But I was someone who was married before and I pretty much like to ignore/pretend that that never happened – hence my reason for that.


    With that said, my gown was a 2005 gown that I bought as a sample dress.  I called it my something new.

    Post # 55
    245 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    At first I was thinking “naaah” but after a little thought it would be silly not to use the wedding dress you already have. I think using the dress is an excellent idea. Why waste money on another which either 1) won’t be your dream dress 2) look almost exactly like  your dream dress. 

    Post # 56
    1508 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would rock the dress you love! Myabe run the idea by your Fiance and make sure he is okay with it too. If you dont ask and he finds out later he might be hurt, better to know in advance =) Congrats on your engagement!

    Post # 57
    1855 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    100% would do it. But I would buy a new veil, new jewelry, and new shoes. All new for accessories. If you were MARRIED in the dress before, I’d say “Hell no.” But it was never worn! And it’s a Claire Pettibone.

    If you end up being super on the fence about it, then sell your Claire dress (since it is new and unworn), and try to buy another Claire dress that is used. You could probably break even. Or, you could go the dressilyme or Jasmine’s route, and have a replica of anything made.

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