Post # 16
It sounds lovely! Bride & groom greeting the guests before the ceremony is actually the custom in my husband’s home country and I think is becoming more of a trend in general. As for the bouquet toss, that’s on the out anyway! I had a big fat fairly traditional wedding and chose not to do that or the garter.
Post # 18
If it makes you feel any better, I’m not wearing a veil either nor am I throwing a bouquet — and it’s only my first time being married lol
Post # 19
We’ve been happily married almost 40 years and I can’t remember us doing anything, that many consider traditional. I didn’t wear a veil, throw a bouquet, he throw a garter, do a cake cutting, grand entrance, first dance, parent dances, “give the bride away,” something old/new, etc., etc. It worked for us!
Post # 20
The funny thing is some of my family have referred to my ideas as unique, but I dont think so either. I am not having my father walk me down the isle and give me away. I have lived on my own for thirty years now, so why would I. My fiance will see me in my dress before the wedding ceremony. I will not have a cake but a whole different set of desserts and City BBQ for dinner. Anything we can do different we are going too.
Post # 21
One of the venues I looked at mentioned they frequently hold the cocktail hour before the ceremony so the bride and groom can greet their guests. So it’s not that crazy!
Post # 22
My husband and I walked down the aisle together in the tiniest chapel I have ever seen (on board a ship)were married by a captian out at sea, and skipped over all the traditional things except for the cutting of the cake (because I frigging love cake!)We had 16 guests and the reception was held in the Grand Suite, away from people. I say go for it, and you do you!
Post # 23
I think it sounds nice. I also think that what’s traditional is undergoing a change. I haven’t seen a bouquet toss in years! Same goes for the garter toss. I personally hate both so I’m glad to see them go.
I think you should do you. If you end up having a traditional wedding you’re going to regret it. Ours was semi traditional but we took out the parts that we didn’t like. Bouquet toss was one of them. Also we had our first dance and that’s it, no others. There were three short speeches. We did cake cutting but no cake in the face, I hate that too. (Dang I sound negative today! Lol).
Post # 24
Your ceremony sounds great to me!
I’m going to see people in my dress before the ceremony, Fiance and I are walking in together and there will be no bouquet toss or veil for me either 😀
I have quite bad social anxiety so doing any of that sounds mortifying.
Post # 25
We will be doing the exact same thing!
I’m not hiding away from anyone as they arrive, and hubby and I will be getting ready together and walking in together. It’s what were comfortable and happy with so who cares!!
Post # 26
My advice is to have the wedding you want and stop worrying about what other people are telling you. This is your day, and you should do what you want to be comfortable and relaxed.
Post # 27
Your wedding sounds lovely. Every one should have their wedding their way, it’s their day after all. My Fiance and I will be walking up the aisle together, I’m not doing the ‘something old, something new’ thing and I don’t care who doesn’t like it!
Post # 28
OMG if you can’t decide at 47 what will be YOUR OWN, PERSONAL PERFECT, how long will you have to wait until you can?
I, Stodgy Old Lady Crone, think your personally designed marriage plan is DREAMY!
Please post pictures after the event!!!
Post # 29
I don’t think you’re planning anything that out there. I wouldn’t bat an eye at a single thing you’re doing here, even if you were 25 and getting married for the first time.
My apologies if you were trying for unique, but not throwing a bouquet, having other desserts besides cake, and seeing each other before the ceremony are the norm now.