(Closed) A view from the other side: HE was the one waiting (LONG)

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

That is a nice story, I just think men and women “wait” differently as women are more emotional and men are more logical. Waiting was probably easier for him as he could clearly and logically see the reading for the wait whereas a woman, especially one who has been waiting years maybe be s bit more sensitive to it all. Remember, it is rare to find a guy who is waiting for you to be ready. The common thought is a man tries to wait as long as possible before tying himself down. Women usually go on emotions for items like this and would more than likely say yes versus wait.

Post # 4
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2012

My opinion:

With so many men and women holding beliefs that the man should be the one to initiate engagement/marriage (not talk, the thing itself) by proposing, when a man “waits”, it is a totally different animal. It was totally within his role to ask you at any time he pleased, whether you would say yes or not.

Also, I very rarely see women here expecting a proposal when the man is in school, just starting his career, etc. Most know not to expect their younger SO to be ready for marriage then.

In short, much of the angst of waiting arises from feelings of powerlessness and/or being dead in the water in a relationship where finances, situation, ages, etc. all or mostly align.

Interesting retrospective thought and sweet story, but I don’t think it really applies.

 

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