Post # 1
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Newbee
My partner and I have been together for nearly 4yrs.. He recently (lastmonth) asked me to find a ring to my liking, so I found two for him to choose from.
I am now wondering when he is going to get around to buying the ring and popping the question, we have been totally open about the engagement, we want to get engaged and we both know its our next step.
But i dont want to push this part, i want some of the romance to be retained, part of me wishes he’d not asked me to choose a ring as now i am going out of my mind wondering when its going to happen. (i am definate that hes not purchased the ring yet- dont ask me how i know but i do! shared bank accounts and a small flat!)
We have been together a long time, and iv seen friends/sisters get married who’ve been with their men half the time! its my turn, but he needs to get in gear!!
how long would you wait before saying something and/or mentioning it to him?
Post # 3
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1137 posts
Bumble bee
Tinkerbell-
I went through this EXACT same thing with my fiance. We had been together for 7 years. At one point, he was the best man at a wedding where the couple had met 4 years after we had begun dating. To make matters worse, while he was seated at the head table, I was at a table with a group of his friends, 2 of which had met after we started dating, gotten married and were pregnant!
I kept a smile on all night, but the next morning, I broke down in tears and asked him why it seems like everyone else was moving on in their lives but we were stuck in the same place.
He assurred me that he had a plan, and a timeline, and even though it seemed as though we weren’t going anywhere, he was definitly working towards a future with me.
Your boyfriend DOES have a plan, even if it seems to be dragging out. I would be patient. It will make the engagement even better knowing that he did everything when he felt comfortable.
Post # 4
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5784 posts
Bee Keeper
Don’t say anything. I knew my boyfriend was planning on proposing and said something about knowing he was going to propose christmas morning. He got really upset I ruined his “surprise”. He ended up surprising me a few days before christmas, but I wish I had kept my mouth shut.
Post # 5
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Busy bee
Well I am def the wrong person to get advice from on this because I bugged him all the time:) We were together for longer than all our friends and their SO and when they all starting getting married and having babies before us I got really upset. One day the boy told me that his cousin was going to ask his gf of just a year to marry him. I started to get really upset and the tears just started flowing..two months later we went ring shopping!!
Post # 6
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1032 posts
Bumble bee
i am going through this too!! and i am going CRAZY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
We went shopping weekend before last, and he told me he bought it last Wednesday (because he was so excited he had to tell me) and I am dying! I feel like its been months!
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