(Closed) A Warning to Those Doing DIY Invites…If you want it done right, do it yourself

posted 7 years ago in DIY
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Really?  You forced your mom and friends to do manual labor for you and then complain that they didn’t do it perfectly….. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ugh that’s frustrating. There are some things I wouldn’t mind help with, but anything that has a lot of little details is something I would prefer to do myself. Are all of these things that you are able to fix without having to scrap them and completely redo them? If I had to completely scrap ’em that would infuriate me.

A friend helped me make a bunch of paper roses and I was freaking out about those the whole time. Luckily that’s a project where little differences won’t be noticeable.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

I agree with you. You should have done everything yourself.

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Moose1209: She never said she forced her BM’s and mom’s help. They may have offered. 

I think it’s fine to vent on here about that stuff. I know I certainly would have to. As long as you don’t mention your frustration to your helpers and thank them for their efforts then venting is perfectly reasonable.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee

No one shares your vision as much as you do. I haven’t asked for much help with my DIYs for a reason. I am glad that you fixed things so that you’re happy with them now. On the bright side, you have friends and family that love you enought to offer their help! I wish I had that most days.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Its so true that us the bride cares more about these so called “minor details” more than anyone else.  I would have been upset too.  I actually gasped when I saw the bellyband!  I just don’t even know what to say.  I ended up doing all of mine myself.  The only thing I had help on was from my Fiance putting the adhesive squares on the corners.  I am wayyy too much of a perfectionist to trust anyone.  AT least they are done though! 

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

There are some things I NEED to do by myself.My SIL always tells me to contact her if I need help with anything,I want to tell her to relax,I will contact u if I DO need help.Im just afraid people will screw things up.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

There are some things I NEED to do by myself.My SIL always tells me to contact her if I need help with anything,I want to tell her to relax,I will contact u if I DO need help.Im just afraid people will screw things up.

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I can sympathize. I did table mock-ups with my Mother-In-Law with pics so she’d know how I wanted them set, and they still didn’t set the centerpieces up right. It’s not like you’d ever say it to them, but yeah, if someone offers to help, they shouldn’t do a half assed job. You spend months/weeks/whatever planning the details, and then to see it not carried out feels like a waste. It doesn’t make you ungrateful to expect people to do things right if they offer in the first place. This just makes them look lazy.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

My BMs helped me on a couple of steps for my invites.  I had to toss a few away, but luckily I ordered extra paper.  I plan to complete them by myself, although my Maid/Matron of Honor has generously offered to help.  But OP, I understand your need to vent to the hive.  I didn’t say anything to my BM’s too.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

This would drive me CRAZY!!!! AHHH! That sucks so bad! Hope the invites work out!

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

This would drive me crazy too. Whether I’m doing something for myself or someone else, I’m a total perfectionist, but I know that other people are not, which is why I pretty much never let anyone help me with anything! LOL. Though it’s not like this is rocket science, it’s cutting paper. My sympathies.

Post # 15
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

That is frusterating. Yep, best to just do it yourself if you want it done exactly the way you want them to be.

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