(Closed) Am I wrong to be confused?

posted 8 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I would just simply tell them what you said here. 

“We would love more than anything to go to Texas with you all, but it would be very irresponsible of us financially to go at this time.  After the wedding, we plan to schedule a trip down to see everyone.”

How can they argue with adults acting responsibly?

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@SweetRose2011: I think with all the fiscal responsibilities you have dear, that it might be too much for them to ask this of you. Yes its incredibly generous that they have you in their home and what not, but you have limitations as to your budget and you are paying for not only a wedding, but schooling yourself as well. I wouldnt think the effect of going away during school wouldnt help your grades either. I think you should calmly say that while you really appreciate their hospitality in inviting you, and how supportive the family has been, that its important that as a couple you both focus on what you can fiscally afford, and time wise what is possible. I also agree that the wedding would be a great time to get to know extended family. I really hope they respond well to you being honest, just make sure they know that you want to go, but in all honestly really shouldnt!

😀 I hope that helps!

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Maybe they don’t understand all the responsibilities you have. You definitely have a good excuse not to go… but they probably aren’t thinking about him not having a job and you having classes. Maybe if you explain that to them they will be better understanding. Or maybe they will even offer to pay.

Families in general are just getting on my nerves. My future in laws are great people, but I don’t understand the way they act sometimes. I guess I will always feel like an outsides at times. Ugh.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@SweetRose2011: I feel like that about my fBIL all the time….

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