(Closed) "A wedding just isn't our idea of fun"

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 32
3051 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

I can’t imagine sending out an email declining before even being INVITED. Wow.

Post # 33
1982 posts
Buzzing bee

I’d just do her a favor and not invite her…

Post # 34
6014 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: March 2012

ugh… sounds like one of those friendships that’s on the way out.  She sounds like a piece of work, and like she will be work. I would probably make the choice for her and not since she’s not really a wedding person….. i’d make her not a guest 😀 

Post # 35
2085 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I’m confused about how this email even came to be… you emailed a different friend and then this chick emailed you a response, unsolicited, explaining why she likely wouldn’t go, even though you hadn’t asked her to go and weren’t even talking to her about the wedding?

What a twit. 

I’d just write back and say something like ‘i don’t recall sending you an invite just yet, but thanks for letting me know early and I just won’t mail you one” or something like that.

Post # 36
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@Tincangirl:  I’m sorry, but the fact that it was unsolicited and from a third party makes this so much more obnoxious than if it had been the friend you floated the date by in the first place. And its obnoxious enough to begin with.

Post # 37
692 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I am sooooo alone in this. But for some reason this wouldn’t bug me. I see how it’s a little obnoxious but I wouldn’t think of her as a B.  What is wrong with me?!?! lol. 

I’d just be like  “Ok, cool story. A simple rsvp card would have worked too. I’ll miss ya but I completely understand. No worries. 🙂 “

And then if she changed her mind after finding out you were paying for it all

I’d be like “Sorry!” and tell her a really cool story to go with it.

Post # 38
11517 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

@Tincangirl:  lol – some people….

Post # 39
436 posts
Helper bee

@Tincangirl:  Wow. She sounds, ummm… Bitter, to say the least. You didn’t even formally invite her yet!

Post # 40
2890 posts
Sugar bee

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@MrsPhilly:  Oh, definitely read that wrong I thought it was the same friend who explained herself.

That was uncalled for. Forget what I said OP, LOL ! I thought your friend was trying to have a genuine conversation about her feelings after you sent HER the date settings. Not that she decided to tell you her opinion when not sollicited.

Post # 41
594 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

Wow, presumptious much? You hadn’t even mentioned your wedding date to her and she still felt the need to seek you out telling you that if she WERE invited she would totally not be coming and, if she did, she wouldn’t care about it at all and would be miserable (I know that’s not exactly what she said, but that’s surely what it reads like to me). What a weird thing to do. 

Post # 42
1328 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

That’s just stupid.  You go to weddings to be there for and celebrate with people you care about.  I’m not religious and don’t care about church stuff, but I went to my nephews baptism because it was important to my sister.  I was there for her, not me.  And that’s what weddings are too. 

Post # 43
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

She could have done without why she doesn’t think weddings are important; that was rude. The comment of, “Weddings aren’t our idea of fun” is not a big deal, in my opinion. She’s right. Weddings AREN’T a lot of fun for some people. That’s just the way it is. She should have just left it at that, or not said anything at all. 

Post # 44
1643 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@Tincangirl:  eugh! thanks for that FRIEND. People can be so vile sometimes

Post # 45
2512 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I wouldn’t be bothered by this. Just don’t send her an invite since you already know she won’t come.

Post # 46
9680 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Usually people at least wait until they are invited to decline. How strange. 

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