(Closed) A wedding of almost all friends, no extended family?

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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8159 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

my friend is estranged from her family.  she had 20 people at her wedding. her friends are her family by choice.

bride, groom, groom’s immediate family, and a few very close friends.

it was a perfect wedding for them.

 

 

 

 

Post # 4
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944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Only my two sisters are invited to my wedding. No aunts, uncles, cousins, etc. on my side. Not even my father. FI has mostly family members coming. My friends are my family and it’s not the ideal situation but I’ve learned to live with it.

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

@chillinchillin:  Your wedding sounds like how mine is going to be.  Eerie!  I am having my nearest and dearest.  Everyone else either lives too far and said they wouldn’t come (from Puerto Rico), and my family mostly doesn’t care for my FI because he is Puerto Rican and because he doesn’t make a lot of money.  So we figured to have the people there who are most supportive to us, and that is fine with us.

Post # 7
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592 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t see anything wrong with a wedding that is mostly friends if those are the people you are close to. Go for it! And this is coming from someone who’s wedding is 80% family.

Post # 8
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4778 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We had immediate fam + some relatives (total 11)

then 5 relatives which would ahve also gotten the friend invite

and the rest were friends (30)

totally awesome!

But that is not to say that other relatives were not invited, most just didn’t come, but I was kinda glad they didn’t in a way, but a few I missed.

Post # 9
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166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ours will be 90% friends and 10% family and I am really happy about that.  He doesn’t have much extended family whereas I have an enormous extended family (50+ aunts/uncles/cousins) who all live out of town. so the celebrations will be with our parents, siblings and friends which we are happy about. 

Post # 10
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166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Ours will be 90% friends and 10% family and I am really happy about that.  He doesn’t have much extended family whereas I have an enormous extended family (50+ aunts/uncles/cousins) who all live out of town. so the celebrations will be with our parents, siblings and friends which we are happy about. 

Post # 11
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602 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

@chillinchillin:  We are having 20 family guests and 40 friends. We are only inviting family we have both met. I have selected only 2 of my 8 aunts(my mother has a total of 13 siblings), some close family friends and my grandparents. I dont care if the others are upset because we dont talk much and none of them could even give you my FI’s name. We are having a few of his aunts but I have met them on family trips. Its your day and you can have who you want. Inviting one and not the others may get some upset people but they will get over.

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think we only had 15 family members out of 40 at my wedding.  My parents, his parents, sister, oma (you do not leave oma out of these type of things or there will be hell to pay), and a few aunts and uncles I actually can tolerate.  The rest were our friends.

We figured we much rather surround ourself with people who actually cared for us and wanted to be part of our lives vs. family we see maybe 1x a year and can’t be bothered to talk to me.

Post # 13
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Bumble bee

I’m not getting married for a long time, and most of the people with long engagements here will be married by the time I’m engaged, but neither my DBF nor I have much extended family. His family is a very small European one (his parents only have one sibling each, and all three of his cousins live overseas…he’s met them only once in his life), and although mine seems a lot bigger on paper, it’s practically the same size. I’ve done a quick tally of how big a family wedding would be, and would easily be under 25 people total.

But for all we know, it might be even smaller than that. Yet since we’re not the types to throw a gigantic wedding, it would most likely just be our families and a number of friends.

 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@chillinchillin; We’re doing that and I’m telling people only our immediate friends and family will be invited to keep things small! Sometimes friends are closer to you than family… it’d be absurd not to have them there on your big day! 🙂

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