Post # 1
I’m totally new to Weddingbee! I signed up because I’m stuck and I need some opinions! We were originally going to have our wedding on May 28, 2016 and I just realized yesterday that that’s Memorial Day weekend! Oops! good thing I didn’t book or send out invitations yet ! My question is, would I be better off changing the date to the weekend after? Or keep the May 28th? Which leads me to my next question: is June 4th to hot for an evening outdoor ceremony? I was thinking of having the ceremony at 5pm. The planner said it would be about 30 minutes long and I’m from the Hudson valley, NY!
Thank you all in advance! Xo
Post # 2
If you aren’t 100% set on the date, then yes, I would change it. Everything gets more expensive around Memorial Day [and all holidays for that matter], and travel is HORRIBLE. You’d be saving yourself and your guests alot of money & frustration.
I don’t know how hot it is where you are from, but June isn’t too bad around here. Late July and August are really hot here, though.
Post # 3
My husband grew up in Dutchess County, NY (southern Hudson Valley), and the evening of 6/4 would not be too hot. I would worry about the date conflict with high school graduations and parties, though. Could you change it to third weekend in May?
P.S. My daughter was married the Sunday of Memorial Day weekend. We had 90% attendance, of those invited. The room block rate we had was substantially below the normal price (wedding was at the hotel, in DE). Guests blocked 52 rooms (of 224 guests) and some even stayed two nights, to have a get-away weekend. Some remarked that they couldn’t have made it to the wedding, if it wasn’t on a 3-day weekend. I didn’t hear any complaints about prices, but every situation is different.
Post # 4
I say go with your gut. We’re getting married memorial day weekend this year and for many of our guests it will be a mini getaway. Its one memorial day out of someone’s entire lives and the most important people will be there regardless. I think our room rate we got was reasonable and in regards to airfare – many people have been able to book with great prices so far. I would just make sure if you do go with the holiday weekend, you give people enough time between when invites are sent and the rsvp date so guests can think about it and plan accordingly.
Post # 5
We are getting married on the Saturday of Labor Day weekend, so kind of the same issue.
Initially I felt bad about choosing that date (it was literally the ONLY weekend unless we wanted to wait another year), but the more I talked to friends and family, the more they said they were really happy about it. A lot of our guests want to stay and make it a long relaxing weekend on the lake, and those that will travel home on Sunday will still feel like they have a weekend to unwind, instead of having to go to work the next day.
Post # 8
samantha.valentine2: change it! Id still go if I loved you but I would be grumbly and pissed about it and you dont want to start with your guests on a bad foot!
People look forward to those plans all year, have family traditions etc. Its not going to be way way hotter a week later. Also, you will get a lot more “no”s . I have friends who think holiday weddings are straight up rude (I dont- people can opt not to go if they want) but yeah… dont!
Post # 6
If you have your wedding on a holiday/holiday weekend, you have to be prepared that you’ll have quite a number of “no” responses. If you’re okay with that, go ahead.
Post # 7
samantha.valentine2: FI and I were super close to having our memorial day weekend of 2015 then our venue informed us our guests would be subjected to a 2 night stay minimum. the economy hit both familys hard so this was just a big no no. so we moved to the 16 the weekend before memorial. I found this to be a huge factor in our date picking. But picking the weekend before memorial also dropped our costs becasue it wasnt “peek summer season”
as a new englander my self june 4th is a swing. you just have to hope for the best. I have been to two fisrt week in june wedding the past 2 years one was freezing! and the one last year was over 90 degrees. I think you just have to pick a date and stick with it! the way this winter is going it could snow june 1st!! haha
Post # 9
Thank you all so much! Your input was greatly appreciated!
Post # 10
waterbaby: Also a Labor Day weekend bride! And have heard the same things as you. It’s surprising how many people like the they have an extra travel day.
Post # 11
My sister got married on Memorial Day weekend and everyone loved it. Guests really appreciated having that extra day for travel and not having to take an extra day off work.
Post # 12
samantha.valentine2: I went to a wedding on Memorial Day weekend and it was a disaster as far as travel to and from the wedding, restaurants, events in the town that made for lots of unexpected traffic, and the hotel didn’t want to give any of the guests their reserved block rooms because they could sell them for full rate. Guests who travelled by car and by air were delayed significantly.
I think an early June evening ceremony in the Hudson Vally would be lovely!! Sounds very romantic!!
Post # 13
You know your guests best. I personally would prefer a Memorial Day wedding, especially if there is travel involved. However, I know plenty of people who have standing plans to go camping or on vacation over Memorial Day.
Post # 14
My wedding was Friday night of Memorial Day weekend. Traffic was definitely heavier, but, other than that, we didn’t experience a problem due to having chosen that weekend.
One thing I will say about May weddings in general: I ran into issues when trying to book an antique car or limo. Unfortunately, nearly vehicle I wanted was either already booked for a prom (or other wedding) or required a minimum of an 8-11 hour booking, because that is what the companies could command for prom events. Thankfully, we found one company that was willing to allow us to rent a limo for a shorter time period — three hours.