- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2012
So ladies…I made it to the wedding after 18 months of being engaged – it was wonderful on so many levels – but due to certain factors it was the most emotionally draining day I’ve ever experienced. The weather was decent and we were able to have our outdoor ceremony which was perfect. I am so happy to be married and to have all of our closest friends and families there to celebrate. What will wind up making the day the most memorable though is that none of our parents were present for the reception – they were all at the hospital.
Ambulance #1: My Mother-In-Law fell the morning of the wedding – told everyone she twisted her ankle. We could all tell it was bad, but she refused to go to urgent care or do much to take care of it. We decided to do family pictures indoors because I didn’t want her walking around much on her ankle. Fast forward to the cocktail hour – Mother-In-Law is sitting down with her legs elevated on a chair at her table. I call over a friend who is an ENT doctor, he tells her that her ankle is broken and she needs it taken care of soon. About 15 minutes later, I look up and see a wheelchair being brought into the reception room – they wheel out my Mother-In-Law. She winds up having a seizure in the bathroom and passes out, an ambulance is called and she’s taken to the hospital for undetermined sickness and the broken ankle. Turns out that she broke her ankle originally while passing out the morning of the wedding – she told her husband not to tell anyone so that we wouldn’t worry. Thankfully they determined all of the passing out and all was due to streess and anxiety. Both Mother-In-Law and Father-In-Law missed the entire reception – she was released from the hospital the next morning but can’t walk for 6 weeks or more.
Ambulance #2: Things were settling down a bit after Mother-In-Law went to the hospital, so me and Hubs were trying to get some food in our system at dinner. Now I noticed my father wasn’t at dinner. My mom mouths to me that he’s in the bathroom. About 15 minutes later, my mom comes to our dinner table crying and says “your father has a lump and I don’t know what to do” – then she just dissolves into tears. WTF?? A lump, I have no idea what she’s talking about, but all the sudden I’m trying to think who else is at the wedding that has medical training. My aunt is an ER nurse, so I have to go grab her from dinner to go to look at my Dad (the hotel is attached to the reception area). She determines that my Dad has a ruptured hernia. We call ambulance #2 for my Dad. They think he’ll need emergency surgery – luckily they are able to postpone it in the end. My Mom and Dad now spend the entire night at the hospital. He was released the next morning and is scheduled for surgery this week.
It is the craziest scenario – one that I could have never imagined. I would not wish this scenario on anyone – we tried to make the best of it – but we were so worried about our families, it was really hard to just enjoy the moment. We were constantly getting calls or word from different family members about the situation. I had to ask different friends or family members to go and bring xyz to the hospital or go pick them up – it was pure insanity.
We were bummed about skipping out on certain things like the grand entrance, parent dances, etc. What I was most sad about missing though were the toasts – I wanted some nice thoughts directed at us from our siblings – I was ready for it. With all of the stuff going on, it just did not seem like the right scenario. At some points during the night, we thought that one or both of our parents were not going to make it through the night. I told my sister if she’s still up for it at Thanksgiving, we can
My one word of advice for inviting guests now would be to make sure you have at least one (and hopefully 2) medical professionals on your guest list – they really come in handy!