A week before the wedding, my mother says to me…

posted 7 months ago in Family
Post # 2
2648 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

squirrelyone :  

Ok so…. your mother sounds absolutely adorable. Thanks for telling her story. To be so sweet after everything she’s been through <3

Post # 3
2448 posts
Buzzing bee

I for sure thought this was going to be one of those complaining about my mom posts.  So glad it wasn’t.

That’s super cute.  I’m not up to date on current hearing aid technology but technology in general can do some wondrous things so I bet it is possible.  If not, maybe your mom has a good invention for Shark Tank or something?

Post # 4
532 posts
Busy bee

What an inspirational story. Thanks for sharing!! You have a wonderful mother. 

Post # 5
531 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

I, too, thought this was going to be a complaint about your mother, but am happily surprised by the outcome. Here I sit at my desk on a rainy Friday morning welling up with tears. Thank you for this story. You both sound like special people <3

Post # 6
7347 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

That is pretty adorable.

Post # 7
10748 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

What a great story thanks for sharing:-) 

Post # 8
572 posts
Busy bee

squirrelyone :  

My parents are both audiologist, so I have grown up hearing about ears / hearing aids. Some aids come with different settings that can be switched depending on the situation. Older tech uses a button on the side of the aid, but some newer models allow you to switch between settings with your smart phone.

If your mom’s aid has these setting options, the audiologist should be able to set up one setting for a party type environment. There are things they can do, such as adjusting the aids to never amplify above her threshold of uncomfortable loudness. This also helps to protect the hearing she has left. This would help her not to get blasted with the music if it is ever played very loud. They can also set one setting for when she wants to hear those close to her, for conversational use, and when she would rather hear things far away, such as the reading of vows, toasts, ect.

I would recommend your mother looking into some of these options if she doesn’t have them already! Also, I would recommend you or your mom find out if the place she purchased her aids from has a “hearing aid dealer” or a “hearing aid specialist” VS an audiologist. The first two groups, in quotes, are people with some on the job training that take an exam, after only a few months, which allows them to sell hearing aids. Audiologists, on the other hand, have a Master’s Degree and above. They are board certified and go through yearly continuing education – just like a doctor or a nurse would. I can’t tell you how many stories I have heard over the years of poorly programed hearing aids from people hearing the word “specialist” and not realizing that they have practically no qualifications. The “specialist” also is not trained to understand the different types of hearing loss, from bone conduction, to simply waxy build up! My mom has had to refer people to a neurologist before, because she recognized the type of hearing loss the patient had was indicative of a brain tumor – and she was correct. A “specialist” would not have been able to catch this… but I digress!

Just some things to consider / look into so that your mom can have the best experience possible on your special day!

Post # 9
433 posts
Helper bee

squirrelyone :  this story makes my heart smile……and your mom sounds adorable 😃

….edited….after reading your update – ask the band leader to notify you when he plays the hokey pokey so you can tell your mom to turn the volume up to “party mode”.

Post # 11
1142 posts
Bumble bee

How wonderful, thank you for sharing this lovely story. Your mother sounds awesome : )

Post # 12
1641 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: Chateau Lake Louise

squirrelyone :  This gave me all the feels. Thank you so much for sharing. <3

Post # 13
228 posts
Helper bee

 I hope that Julie is able to configure a setting that gives your mother maximal enjoyment of the Hokey Pokey (and, y’know, also her daughter getting married) and minimal fuss to configure it day-of. 🙂

Post # 14
1463 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

That’s wonderful!!!

Post # 15
1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

That is fabulous Bee!! I heard Bose makes natural sound filtering earbuds that could help. Thank you so much for sharing your story!! I am elated for you and your awesome mama. Could you possibly recommend any brands or apps of hearing tools your mom uses? I’ve been trying to get my dad to wear hearing aids for my whole life and he never was comfortable with the old models. 

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