(Closed) A week of joy, tears, & fear

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
5004 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2018

My heart goes out to you :(. I can’t imagine dealing with all of this! 

Take it one day at a time. Cross bridges as you come to them. I wish I had better advice, but I don’t. I hope it helps. 

Post # 4
7681 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

So sorry to hear of the losses surrounding you.  But Congratulations to you.  Know that  problems in pregnancy is fairly rare.  I am wishing you well. 

Post # 5
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@Fixin2BMrs.Awesome:  First off, congratulations on your pregnancy! 

The couples you referenced have experienced loss and tragedy and frustration, and the families have as well.  That’s not going to go away until they each have a happy, healthy baby in their arms.  Know that they are deep down happy for you, even though they can’t express it.  I know after my D&C, just seeing pregnant women made me burst into tears. Things that happened in the same month as my due date brought me to tears. And even when I quickly became pregnant again with my son, the worrying didn’t stop.  You know that their pain is not in any way reflective of their feelings for you; it’s to do with their own personal struggles.  It’s possible that they just need some time to get used to the idea and come to terms with your pregnancy/be happy for you externally, too.

For the family members, try and let it go in one ear and out the other.  Follow your doctor’s advice with regards to your pregnancy, and no one elses.  If it gets overwhelming, tell them that their worries and fears are causing you and the baby stress and could they please keep their thoughts to themselves.  

I hope you have a happy and healthy 9 months and baby dust to the other couples in your life!

Post # 6
1036 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I have been through something like this, my SIL was pregnant, their daughter came 3 months early and didn’t make it. Father-In-Law made the comment I hope Ashley ( SIL) gets pregnant before you do. Thought it was kinda rude, but whatever. She got pregnant and me soon after. She had their son, healthy. The boys will be about 2 months apart. Feel like no one was happy for us because she had been trying awhile and we were out on backburner.

Post # 8
2259 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I’ve heard the key to a happy, healthy pregnancy is surrounding yourself with calm and tranquility… which might also mean people who will encourage you and not put the pressure on you more than you feel right now. 🙁 Try to surround yourself with friends and family who will understand this emotional time as well as maybe be able to share positive pregnancy stories. 

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