(Closed) A Well-Known Etiquette Expert Asked For My Honeyfund Link…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
2867 posts
Sugar bee

I don’t like them, but then again, I hate registeries.

Post # 5
1871 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I doubt she’d ask for it at all if she didn’t approve of it. She’s not going to ask you for your honeyfund and then bash you for it–THAT would be bad etiquette!

And etiquette changes. Personally, I’m not a big fan of honeyfund or giving cash, but I’m in the minority–most people don’t mind at all. The more normal the practice becomes, etiquette rules will evolve with it.

Post # 6
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

A true etiquette expert would never make anyone feel bad.  Dont worry, if she is really an expert she will be gracious about anything.  Remember she asked you for your registry info, that is what a registry is for, the convience of your guests.  If she thought it was tacky she wouldnt have asked.

Post # 8
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2011

@PutABirdOnIt: while I’m not a fan of the “money” registries like honeyfund, let me assure you that there is NO WAY to avoid offending some our your guests πŸ™‚  We opted for a traditional registry because the family REALLY wanted one….and lo and behold, my aunt has made a couple of snarky comments because we have wine glasses on there (she’s a tetotaller)!!  There is really no winning when it comes to this sort of thing Wink  At this point, I’ve just decided to just stop worrying so much.

So, really….relax about your choice and just enjoy the ride!!


Post # 9
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

Based on your username I’m assuming you have been married before.  In which case a traditional registry sounds silly.  You probably have all the dishware, bakeware, and useless crap typically found on a virgin registry.  I think a honeymoon registry is very clever in that situation!  Because what you really need is to spend some quality time with your new husband.

I’m really in the camp of people who think you should only ever purchase things off someone’s registry or gift cash though, so take my opinion as that from a person who could really care less about what traditional etiquette says about gifts and registries.

Post # 10
5822 posts
Bee Keeper

PS-I really really really love this one gelato shop on Main Street in downtown Brunswick.  If you’ve never been you MUST go there sometime!  It’s nummy!


Post # 11
523 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I’d rather buy a couple a champagne toast on their honeymoon than another pot or pan that they already have three of, just because they felt that’s what they “should” register for.  There’s so much STUFF and clutter in people’s lives, sometimes services like a dinner for two or tickets to something fun are really what you need and want.

Post # 13
5950 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

I love the idea of a honeymoon registry because I love to give/receive experience gifts.  The only problems I have with it are:

 – The service takes some of the money.  I’d rather just give cash than have some of the money go to a service.

 – I can imagine that people might register for more stuff than they end up wanting to do on their honeymoon (maybe they end up just wanting to chill) and therefore they don’t enjoy your gift.  So again, cash.

So yeah, I like to give cash.  And I definitely don’t think there’s an etiquette problem.

Post # 14
1696 posts
Bumble bee

@nmsoonerbride: I’m unilaterally cancelling that lady’s membership in the Aunt Mafia. For heaven’s sake, I entertain teatotallers seven dinner parties out of ten! I get Kristian Regal sparkling juices at IKEA by the case: lingonberry to be served in red-wine goblets with beef, bison and venison; pear in the white-wine goblets for chicken, whitefish and tofu; pomegranate in the rose glasses for veal, pork, salmon and lentils. And orange juice at breakfast is terribly elegant in champagne flutes. Honi soit qui mal y pense — if Auntie were really so pure as she would like to be, she wouldn’t be assuming the worst, would she?

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