(Closed) A wonderful welcome

posted 8 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 3
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@Mr. Coffee:  Hello and how are you this morning? Good to see that the excited buzz of having an articulate and thoughtful male amongst us did chase you off! Regarding what you share with the boards, be it in a query post of blog post, is entirely up to your whim.  As to filling out your page…well personally, I think we’d glean more of a sense of who you are by the way you interact in the overall community and not by a few lines of text (no matter how revealing, heh) in your bio.

As to replying to posts, I see it this way: If you are going to put your thoughts and by extension, yourself out there to a public community, your words are going to be scrutinized.  As we all cannot accurately predict how someone will react to what we put out there, I don’t think that anyone can rightly get upset if someone’s opinion happens to contrast greatly (or even slightly) to their own.  So basically, I wouldn’t worry about offending anybody as long as your response isn’t crafted to intentionally be “inflammatory” to whoever you are replying too.

Nobody likes that, but everybody appreciates a strong and well-thought through opinion.  πŸ™‚

– Lass






Post # 4
3575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@Mr. Coffee: I would love for you to answer posts.  It’s nice to get a man’s perspective on things.

And yes, post what you’ve been planning, what you want to plan and what you aren’t sure about planning.  The bees like to see it all.  And one thing the hive loves are pictures, pictures, pictures and polls, polls, polls.

Good luck!  You’re going to do well here!

Post # 5
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

Q. Do I show you what we’ve made decisions on throughout the wedding planning process or do I show you what we are thinking about; places, items, food, and more? How do I complete my bio page? It looks as if I should post something in each category… I’m just trying to figure this thing out. How do I know I’m choosing the right board to post on.

yes, yes, and yes. you can post on things you have questions about, things you’re deciding between, and things you’ve decided on! Anything you want really. Just pick the board that seems the most appropriate and if it isn’t where it is supposed to be, an admin will move it to the right location. 

Q. Are you ladies ok with me answering your posts? I mean, I would hate to give my thoughts on something and offend any of you because…. well… I’m a guy. I received many comments yesterday about finally having a guy to bounce ideas off of or get thoughts on something. I just want to make sure that I don’t offend anybody if I follow through…

definitely! usually the only guys we get around here are the occasional boyfriend-ready-to-propose who comes to us for ring/proposal advice. Other than Mr. Bee I can’t recall guys sticking around to participate in the general chatting… so I think that we’d all welcome some more varied opinions. πŸ™‚ 

Post # 6
108 posts
Blushing bee

@Mr. Coffee: I’m not sure about the bio, but post away! And share as much as you want with us πŸ™‚

Post # 7
1088 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

@Mr. Coffee: We would LOVE your opinion on our posts. Feel free and don’t be scared πŸ™‚ haha

Post # 8
322 posts
Helper bee

PLEASE comment on posts! At least mine anyways! I love to have a guy’s opinion and viewpoint πŸ™‚

Post # 9
2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Post whatever you want whenever you want, as long as it is within the site guidelines. You will be basically guaranteed to have a bevy of responses because an active male poster is a novelty that likely won’t wear off soon.

As for the bio.. I’m not sure exactly what you add. Why not browse through some of the the other poster’s bio’s to get an idea?

Wedding bee is egalitarian as far as I can tell.

My personal method of replying to posts is if I have anything constructive to add or I find the post particularly interesting, I jump in. However, if the topic is not to my taste, or my opinion has been more articulately presented by 20-30+ other members I skip it. 

So would I like to see you respond on threads? Absolutely, if you want to.

Post # 10
6597 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2010

Mr. Coffee I love your posts and would love to see you posting on other people’s boards!

The hive loves to get new ideas and so post everything you are comfortable sharing!

The bio you can complete as you get things to complete it with but it is up to you! A lot of people don’t even use/look at the bio section. Everyone uses the site differently. Some people really only read the blogs, some people only use the boards, some people (it seems) don’t really post but read and then use the PM system to contact other board members, and some people use/read everything. 

Can’t wait to read more about Mr and Miss Coffee’s wedding planning adventures!

Post # 11
1254 posts
Bumble bee

I missed your post from yesterday, so I apologize for my tardiness, but welcome to the Hive! Smile

One of my most favorite features of the hive is the honest and candid feedback I receive from a very diverse community. I consider it a safe space for me to vent, bounce ideas, obtain opinions, etc. I suggest you share what you are comfortable sharing. Just know that because it is a diverse community, you may not always hear what you want to hear. Also know that sometimes emotions run high. Afterall, it is a very big life milestone we are planning here. So if things get heated, don’t take it personally. Have fun!

Post # 12
250 posts
Helper bee

Edit:  I reread your post and found the answer to my question! 

Welcome to the hive!

Post # 13
3295 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i think we need a male point of view! it would be very interesting to see what you have to say on some topics such as relationship problems.  sometimes us ladies get a little carried away πŸ˜‰ oh and dont worry we are not too easily offended, and were used to getting many opinins and points of view πŸ™‚ i think its so great that you are getting so involved in the planning process! good for you!

Post # 14
3219 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I am no help with the Bio because I havent even done one!

You can post about anything and everything you want! We love to help and hear about everything!

And of course we want your opnion! Don’t feel like because your a guy you can’t comment on anything, there was a thread a few days ago ASKING to hear opinions from guys but only girls answered “we have guys on here?”. Most of us post on here because our FH’s don’t really care about the wedding planning so your input would be great!

I can’t wait to read all about wedding planning from the guys point of view!

Post # 15
2204 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Anyone is welcome to comment on any post and I think I can speak for most bees when I say that we value different viewpoints and opinions! As a guy, your unique perspective will be appreciated!

Post # 16
2077 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I missed your post yesterday as well, so here’s a late welcome!  πŸ™‚

As far as your questions, I agree with all of the other ladies:  Yes and yes!  Also, I haven’t completed a Bio, so I’m not sure how to go about it, but I’m sure if you fiddle with it, you’ll figure it out.

I personally love reading about everyone’s details in their planning, no matter what stage they’re in, so post away!  Everyone here is wonderful in offering advice, so if you have questions, feel free to post and I know the bees here will be more than willing to help.  πŸ™‚

Welcome again!

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