A year later and still resenting my husband for not wanting much photography

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
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1023 posts
Bumble bee

I don’t see how this is your fault. Your husband changed his mind basically the day of, and dropped that bomb on you. Why was it up to YOU to tell the photographer “No no we are fine!”?

That was also a lot of money wasted. I’d be angry too.

However, you need to find a way to let go of this anger and move past this. Have you told your husband how you feel?

Post # 3
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1701 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I’m so sorry bee, this sucks. I suppose it’s too late at this point to retake photos. πŸ™

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2016

Have you considered doing an anniversary shoot?  It’s not exactly the same, but it will give you additional pictures to love and cherish.  

Post # 7
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592 posts
Busy bee

I am sorry that happened on your wedding day. πŸ™ 

I second a PP about maybe having an anniversary shoot. However your partner may not be keen as he seems extremely minimlistc. However he did marry you and needs to compromise so…

Try to find a healthy way to let this anger out btw. Dont let it bottle up. Unfortunately you cannot change the past, but in future dont let him dictate things without your input. You deserve to have what you want also

 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

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planningwife311 :  do you have ONE great picture of that day that you can frame? 

If so…that’s really all you need Bee. Think about your grandparents’ wedding, or your great grandparents’. Only one picture makes it to the mantle and then gets passed down right? Pictures of the decor and setting are great for albums but very, very few people ever take their dusty albums out and go thru them. 

Holiday pics. Anniversary pics. Easter oics. Spring pics! Find someone good who will do a mini shoot (30 minutes or so) of you two and then get some awesome pictures. Then, since your DH is a minimalist, ask him to buy you a GREAT digital frame. One frame that will show you the whole reel of all the pictures of you 2 that you like. Bam. 

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018

When it comes to SOME men, they just want to get the details out of the way and get married. They don’t care about the color of the table cloths. They don’t care about the crystals on the table. They don’t care about al ot of different things that makes the wedding beautiful. The only thing that you can do now is take anniversary photos or redo your wedding pictures in wedding dress and suit. My fiance, for example, is a very simple man and does not really care about all of the details. He just wants to get married. When I talk about the cost of photos, he recommends letting people take pictures with their phones…lmfaooooooooo…Of course I am not listening to that bull….He has to deal with photos done by a pro and then he can complain later if he wishes. I want heirlooms.

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