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megm1099 : How do you like their quality though? I’ve tried buying from Target a few times, but the quality is so miserable it makes me want to scream! I went there primarily for kids stuff, because it’s cheap and kids outgrow things fast. But I think I’ll switch to a Buy Nothing Group instead. :/ But to splurge in an experience like a movie, rather than cheap crap, is the way to go!!
Scarlett11 : That’s fantastic! I would love to get there in terms of reducing my environmental impact. I’m sure you’re a lot happier and more content than someone who is always on the hunt for a deal. It’s not a feeling that’s conducive to contentment at all! You’re doing it right, sounds like!
TheGridMonster : That’s awesome! I need to get there soon. I fear that once I have my second baby, it will worsen my habit… I’ll be home for a couple months and will probably not leave the house much initially when the baby is tiny. Need to find a hobby quick! 🙂
Post # 47
I can do it. When I know I have more important things I need to save up for. Otherwise its tough.
Post # 48
- Wedding: June 2019 - Cortland, NY
techmom : I think because it’s cheap XD I mainly grab clothes and decor, like cute pillows and sweaters. Very bad of me lol
Post # 49
sarathemermaid : I’m definitely not frugal in the sense that I am fine with the occasional splurge.. I’m just trying to cut down on cheap crap, lol. I’m not a shopaholic by US standards either, certainly by the standards of the people around me- but I want to try and become a more conscious buyer. For clothing I will often limit myself to $200 for a single item, but maybe that’s not a good strategy for me- my favorite pieces of clothing have been above that! They look fantastic, high quality, and I get so much use out of them. I’m going to rethink my rule, though obviously that means buying far less often and buying pieces I will never want to get rid of. My t shirts actually have held up quite well! I think if you get a better quality t shirt, made of cotton or linen, you may get more use out of it? So, my sister has had this Chanel t shirt since she was a kid- for around 20 years now- and it looks as good as new. I need to find myself a brand that still values quality.. white and black t shirts are such a wardrobe staple for anyone! I wear them at night, under blazers, and under cashmere sweaters. Would love mine to last 20 years. 🙂
Yeah, Michael’s is my happy place. I fancy myself a big crafter, but the truth is, I rarely have time for it! And my husband has pointed out that we have so many different paints and brushes around the house, that he thinks it’s nuts. He’s right, sigh.
pinkshoes : Yeah, it’s really smart to think in terms of cost per use! I need to remind myself of that more often. And expensive isn’t bad at all, if you’re paying for quality and longevity! I just found a guide on looking for quality clothing by the Luxe Strategist. I absolutely love her approach to things, and you sound like her. 🙂
michellelynn9175 : I hear you on the not spending because you have no choice ..although when I was broke it was the easiest kind of broke- no family, and I knew once I graduated I’d have good job prospects. I hope things get better for you!
You’re right that it’s a first world problem but it’s one that impacts all of us.. the accumulation of cheap junk (and junky plastic based fabrics like nylon and rayon that use fossil fuels) by the first world has serious environmental implications for the whole world. Also, the rise of fast fashion has had serious economic implications for the US. Clothes used to cost a large percentage of a family’s income, but also were made to last and used to be repaired. The clothes we bought supported livelihoods and industries here. Now the garment manufacturing industry in the US is non existent because all the jobs have moved to countries where labor is cheap, and no one wants to spend a lot on long lasting quality clothes- just whatever is in this season. We can trace a fair bit of our economic woes and rising income inequality to an addiction to cheap crap- but it’s probably something that was pushed by greedy industries rather than consumers alone. 🙁
Post # 50
i would LOVE to do this. but i know i couldnt. theres just no way. i applaud myself if i dont place a damn amazon order in a week. its pretty bad actually. im fantastic with every other aspect of my finances. we bought a home well under our budget and keep our bills so so low and because of that i always tend to have so much extra money in the bank and it just cant sit there! its a sickness really
Post # 51
sars : will check that out, thanks!
whitecollarbee : Maybe you’re right, a year does seem extreme and could put me on the path to failure. The things I have been buying that I regret are actually cheap, so they barely impact savings.. which is why perhaps savings may not be the best motivator for me. But your suggestions are good ones, I think overall they help with making more conscious decisions about buying.
lifeisbeeutiful : Haha, I think we tend to overestimate our reliance on the need to constantly shop. It’s not easy initially, I’m sure.. but feel everything I’ve read, it gets easier with time!
Post # 52
redmango : Oh yeah, staying off the internet is probably the single best thing you could do. It’s crazy how the internet just fuels excess!! How does it feel having pared down? I’m guessing it actually feels really good!
lovelyruby : KonMari seems really promising, I watched the new Netflix show and it’s great. I have a hard time getting rid of clothes because of guilt mostly. I’ll go through the whole- but oh my mom or mom in law bought me that, I never used it, I feel awful throwing it away. But I notice that Mari tells you to thank the things you are getting rid of, and gosh, that would certainly ease up the guilt for me! Yeah, I don’t think more stuff makes us happy! And often we fail to recognize that even if we can afford to buy a lot, it doesn’t make it okay. I recently saw a YouTube video of this billionaire woman in Singapore who owned over 200 Birkin bags. I don’t even get that. And sure she can afford it.. but after your first 1, 2, even 5 Birkins, if you’re still wanting more, surely it’s tome to recognize that the thing isn’t making you content? It just seemed to me like she was hopelessly caught up in this never ending cycle of wanting more and more!
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techmom : I did start out by thanking my things, and it did help! But I will say, I think it was imperative that I felt guilty when I got rid of rooms full of stuff. The guilt is what drove me to stop buying more stuff, because I never wanted to have go through that again! But now that it’s been years, I am completely in the habit of not purchasing and I love it.
Nesting Story on Youtube has a super inspiring video playlist where she cleared out her house! I know your goal is to stop spending, but to me the two really go hand in hand.