(Closed) A year to send a wedding gift

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I do! Like really why do you need a year!?

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

Correct me if I’m wrong, but I do believe the rule is an urban legend. And yes, I consider it rude.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

ive actually had someone tell me they are exercising this “rule” bc they cant afford to get us anything right now.. i don’t really care though bc my marriage isnt a cash-in…. we dont need gifts.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We were “scolded” a week after FBIL’s wedding, which I consider VERY rude, for not giving them a gift yet.  You don’t chase after gifts.  I don’t think I consider it rude to not give or wait a few weeks or a year.  Heck, I’d be delighted if a year from now we randomly got a gift!  How fun would that be!?

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@snake: Ive been in that situation.  My FH lost his job right before we went away to vegas and a friends wedding.  It was really tight when we got back from our vaca (Our cable even got shut off).  Not sure that I would say Im enforcing a rule, more so, excuse the lateness of the gift.  But it is in the end a GIFT.  not a requirement…

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

If you follow the standard “cover your plate” rule and want to pay $150-$200 for a gift, then for some budgets, yeah, 6-8 weeks really isn’t enough time to pay for a gift and the year rule becomes a blessing.  Not all budgets can easily just toss out a $200 gift.  I know I couldn’t.  So, I could either give what I could afford, and it not be what I really wanted to give.  Or I could wait a few months until I’ve saved up and give what I would really like to.  I really don’t consider the rule rude at all.  Besides, late gifts are always fun and exciting…atleast I think so. lol

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

We had friends get married almost 6 months ago and we still havent gotten them a wedding gift and I do not feel rude AT ALL. Our friends’ wedding was in Colombia and cost us over $3000 to go to (it was a 4 day trip to South America). That price isnt even including all of the food or drinks we got while there and souvenirs, etc.  We had to save for about 8 months just to be able to afford this trip.

At the same time we were saving for their trip and then after they got married, we were in the midst of wedding planning and any extra money we had was going to that. We had expenses left and right not to mention that we live in one of the most expensive areas in the country. We just got married 3 weeks ago and will be getting them a wedding gift relatively soon. We did give them a card at their wedding and we got them a little wooden box to put their rings in, but nothing big. We didnt want to just write them a check for $50 because they are very good friends of ours (DH was a groomsmen in his wedding and he was a groomsmen in ours) so we want whatever we get them to actually be something that is more thought out.

And I agree with a PP that I would be ECSTATIC to receive wedding gifts for a year after our wedding!!

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