(Closed) AA Brides! How much is your family contributing?

posted 7 years ago in African-American
Post # 3
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780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Not a dayum thang!!!  Hahaha!!  Fiance is paying for the entire wedding, in cash (no debt), on his own.  (((Swoon, my hero))).  That’s why I’m on such a tight budget.  Out of respect to him, I want to do this for as little but as ELEGANT as possible.

Post # 4
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500 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

0.00 %.  We (hubby and I) are paying for it on our own!!  I want to make sure that when our children get married, I can break this cycle and foot the bill for them.  I know I read some of these threads complaining talking about their parents are only giving them 20k or 10k or ANY amount and I’m like really dude? why are you complaining about that – you should be so grateful because we ALL do not have it like that. 

Post # 6
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1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We are planning to pay for everything ourselves. *Maybe*they will help us out a little (like a few hundred bucks) down the line but not enough to make a dent in the cost of this event. Im not mad about it though since both of our families came from very modest backgrounds and cant understand why we would want to spend so much on one day, plus we can afford to cover it all ourselves. However i do intend on helping my children with their weddings since we are better off finacially then our parents are.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Fiance and I are footing the entire bill 100%. We never even thought to do it any other way. We wanted total control over the vibe of our wedding and our guestlist…plus since we are both financially stable and make good livings, we would feel weird accepting money from our parents. 

Having said that, I will say about 80% of my AA friends’ parents paid for their weddings completely or partly. They got married in their 20’s though so I don’t know if that had something to do with it or not.

Post # 8
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2103 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

Nuffin, but I don’t expect them to. It would be nice, but I’m kinda glad. It can be MY wedding without the stress of everybody elses’ demands. (Although, we’ll see if that’s true or not in a few months).

Post # 9
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861 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Nothing….Fiance is paying the bulk of it while I am paying for what I can.  I’m an older bride though, and I think the youngins are more likely to have help from parents.

Post # 10
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3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

My parents are paying for the entire wedding (except alcohol). But my parents are white…

Post # 11
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7387 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I’m an older bride, we are paying for it. Both my parents are deceased, his parents may help with a lil somethin’ but if they don’t its no biggie.

Post # 12
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3305 posts
Sugar bee

My “mom” is offering to help pay but I think we may just get a wedding present for 5K from her. My fiance is getting a settlement shortly and that is what we are using to pay for the wedding. Our venue is looking around 16K.

Post # 13
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405 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Not a dime. Well, I take that back, my dad bought our centerpieces, but that was just $150. MY parents can’t really afford to help at all.

FI’s parents have contributed some money. But we are footing the bill ourselves, in cash. We sure wish someone would help us with the honeymoon though! We registered on Honeyfund, so here’s hoping.

Post # 14
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236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

We too are paying for our entire wedding.

But one thing my fiancee and I have vowed to do was definetly break the cycle with our children.  We are saving up for their college education, wedding and even want to give them a gracious down payment on their first home.  We already have a “baby savings account” even though we have yet to have any children. 

 

Post # 15
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56 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

A few funds here and there but me and FH are paying for just about everything.  I’m an older bride so I don’t expect them to pay for everything.

Post # 16
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780 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Agree with the majority.  I do NOT want my child(ren) to have to pay for their college or wedding on their own.  I’d like to even offer assistance with helping them with getting their first home.  You want your kids to have been than you did!!

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