Post # 1
Have any of you thought of Eloping? I come from a carribean family and although eloping would be less stressful and expensive, I know my family would be very disapointed in me. Why can’t wedding be about the bride and groom and not about everyone else and what they want you to do? (I am not engaged yet but we have had discussions about eloping)
Post # 2
I come from a Caribbean family as well and STRONGLY thought about eloping or doing a destination wedding with just my close family there. I caved under some pressure and wound up having a 50 person wedding instead. The advice if give to you and my cousins is to do what the hell you want and forget what other people want. People are always going to have a say but it’s not about them, it’s about what you and your future finance want. Go get married at sandals. I sometimes still wish I did lol.
Post # 3
thank you so much for this advice! I really appreciate it!
Post # 4
YES! My parents are from Kenya and FI’s mom/family are from Trinidad. We are the first of our siblings/cousins who were born in the US to get married. Alot of pressure to include extended family and friends of the parents in not only the guest count but also the wedding party. We are both pretty reserved and introverted and would prefer a small/intimate ceremony with 60 people max (for cost and sanity reasons) but both moms have made it pretty clear that family is important and they would like for us to have a traditional wedding with family in tow.
The last time I talked to my mother she let me know that her guest list was broaching close to 100 people. I’m hoping to keep the guest list under 120, and I am trying to appease my parents are some things, and have made it pretty clear that if they are going to have their friends/extended family making up most of the guest list then they need to help financially.
Post # 5
are you paying for the wedding or your parents? I think it would make a difference for some. But family needs to remember it will be YOUR wedding not theres!