(Closed) AAAAAAAAAA!!!!

posted 6 years ago in Traditions
Post # 3
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1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I think you need to get past the arguments to the whys. What does it mean to him for you to change your name? What does he think will happen if you don’t? 

Post # 4
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1066 posts
Bumble bee

My man thought this was unfair. Its like saying “I am not marrying you until you change your hair to red,or convert to another religion, or buy a Honda”…You need to know the reason…

Post # 5
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1772 posts
Buzzing bee

If both of you are refusing to budge then what’s going to happen?  Is it a dealbreaker on either side?  It would be a shame if it got to that point, but exactly how strongly do each of you feel in your positions?

ETA:  It sounds like he’s willing to accept you hypenating as a compromise to his position.  I know you said you don’t like that solution, but would it be more acceptable to you if you both hyphenated so that it wasn’t exclusively the woman who had to change?   

Post # 7
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433 posts
Helper bee

@kittyfinn:  

At the end of the day it is your name and you shouldn’t change it if you don’t want to. He shouldn’t be trying to force you to do something that makes you so uncomfortable.  It sounds like he’s not being a total jerk about it though so hopefully he’ll learn to accept it.

Post # 8
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1022 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@kittyfinn:  you’ll have to just decide. you never know what will come,before I was engagned I said a big heck no to changing it. now that we are getting closer I’m debating hyphenatiNG IT.

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