Post # 1
This is not a happy excited post. I mean, on one hand it is, and one hand it really really isn’t.
So, my boyfriend and I have been together two years this Thursday. His sister and her boyfriend had been together about a year and 8 months, from my understanding. And I am super happy for them that they got engaged last week.
But what does this mean? It means that my boyfriend isn’t proposing this weekend anymore. He straight-up told me. We are going on an awesome anniversary vacation this upcoming weekend, and he had previously told me not to expect an engagement for our anniversary because he hadn’t been able to by the ring yet, but has been working like crazy and would have been able to.
So yeah. I’m upset inside. At the same time, I feel like a total brat because his sister is awesome and it’s great that she has gotten to make a commitment with a wonderful man.
But my SO had already planned two other proposals, both of which fell through for different reasons.
I am upset, though I am trying my best not to show it. This means our timeline that HE GAVE has officially run out and of course I’m not going to leave or anything silly, I love him, but we want to get married this upcoming February and that is so not happening now. So I am bummed. Off to the gym. Ugh…..
Post # 3
I don’t understand why he still can’t propose..?
Post # 4
I know you love him and know him better than any of us, so maybe you could provide some insight into his reasoning behind all this? I’ll be honest and say that from an outsider’s viewpoint it may seem that he’s grabbing at any excuse to delay proposing. What does your gut tell you?
Post # 5
@Gingersnap: Agreed. Seems excuse-ish, especially since it’s happened twice before. I guess I just don’t understand the whole proposals happening close together being a problem thing. Who cares? We all live our own lives.
Post # 5
I agree with Gingersnap. There really is no reason he still can’t propose this weekend. I’ve heard the “stealing the thunder” arguement. But really, when people truly care about others they don’t care if 2 great things happen near eachother. Just so long as you aren’t planning on getting married within a week of eachother. That would be weird. But maybe you won’t have to wait as long as you think. You never know. Fingers crossed for you that it’s sooner rather than later. 🙂
Post # 6
Perhaps he is playing a trick on you…
Post # 7
I think he should still be able to propose. Especially if that’s when he was planning it for. Hopefully this is just to throw you off!
Post # 8
Soo he told you he cant propose because he doesnt have a ring? But now its because his sister got engaged last week? I dont get it.
Post # 9
Before it was because he hadn’t finished saving up for a ring, but the money situation has changed and now that isn’t an issue. Our families are really small, and stealing the thunder would be exactly right. I know that he wants to, and had things planned for this weekend- maybe he still will but I know it won’t be his original plan because he already told me what it was. And we were both excited about it being as much of a surprise as possible. Oh well 🙂 waiting a little longer won’t kill me. After two hours of cardio, I’m in much better spirits!
Post # 10
Maybe you guys should stop planning your proposal down to the milisecond and just let it be a surprise already…
Post # 11
It’s good to hear that you’re in good spirits after your time at the gym. I’m sorry that things won’t be happening as you had hoped, but everything happens for a reason. Be grateful that you have found the man you will marry. . .a man who already has YOUR ring (I’m assuming he does if he was planning to propose this weekend). It will soon be your turn to make a committment to your wonderful man!
Post # 12
you are a better woman than i am – i would NOT put my life on hold because of someone elses “thunder”. you cant stop living your life waiting for others to have their turn. goodluck!
Post # 13
Well, my fiance did the same thing to me. His younger brother got engaged in June ’09, married in August ’10. Fiance told me that we could not get engaged until after they got married. I seriously WAS pissed and said the same thing about us not planning our lives around someone else’s timeline. I actually wanted their wedding to be over sooner so that we could get engaged. Fiance did not want to step on his brother’s toes which I can kind of understand (ok not really)… but that was essentially his decision to wait to propose.
Turns out he proposed the DAY after (8/29/10) his bro’s wedding. He said he really couldnt wait any longer. and I was pretty surprised because I wasn’t expecting it to happen the very next day… so that’s my experience.
It will happen, just probably not on your timeline! :(:(:( Believe me, I know exactly how it feels. And now I am planning a wedding and studying for the CPA exam at the exact same time… and its super stressful, but that is a whole ‘nuther conversation….
Post # 14
I know that has to be disappointing. Maybe he is trying to throw you off so you’ll be surprised?
Post # 15
@kolsen206: I would have been so pissed that my head would have caught on fire.