(Closed) Aaaaaaaargh! My friend just asked me to be her MC

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 1999

I didn’t know weddings had MCs. What all comes with the job?

ETA: Is it similar to a DOC or personal attendant?

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@KellyLouise:  HAHA I love the idea that she felt this “ask,” was a memory you wanted to treasure for all of time. It is sweet she wants you included…unless this is just her way to get out of hiring an actual MC. The best thing you can do, despite how uncomfortable you may find it, is to be completely honest. Honestly, you don’t owe them an explanation besides no, however, if you were close friends I would nicely explain how uncomfortable it would make you for the reasons listed. Just to keep the blood clean. If you wanted to soften it, offer to do another task she might need. Again, when it comes to responsibilities in somebody’s wedding you can really just give a yes/no. 

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@KellyLouise:  Time is of the essence. I’d gracefully decline sooner rather than later, so she has alternate plans to pursue. Also, she’d have little reason to get mad at you for giving a definite no up front, rather than her thinking you’re “stringing her along,” (which of course may not be the case, but try to convince a bridezilla someone isn’t being inconsiderate).

Instead of saying you refuse to MC and leaving it at that, why don’t you think about what you would be willing to do for her (to show her there’s no love lost) but that doesn’t make you feel so “Johnny on the spot” for such a long time. Could you read at the ceremony? Could you sing a little song? Could you give a toast? A puppet show? Anything but MC the entire night will do.

Good luck with your friend!

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

Wow, I am surprised that she thought that it would be an honor. If I were asking that of one of my guests, I would definitely preface it with something like, This is a big responsibility, and I know that you might not want to do this… Oh well.

I agree with PP in that you should offer to do something else. If she’s a good friend, she will understand your anxiety of being in front of a huge audience, and understand that it was a lot of ask of you. I would just explain that you aren’t comfortable and then offer any job in which doesn’t involve talking to the whole wedding! πŸ™‚ Good luck!

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@ieatunicorns:  Some weddings choose alternatives to a DJ. We are too. Though we are paying our friendor. Our venue has all equipment and we have the playlist on Fiance’s computer so our friendor is going to be hitting play and then making sure the songs play at the right time (2 playlists. 1 on shuffle all night and the other will be the special songs.) Thus he is consiered an MC. If a couple isnt having music or using an ipod or whatever they may use an MC.

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I really think that it depends on the person. I WOULD be honoured and excited to be someone’s MC. But I love public speaking.

You obviously don’t, so it isn’t so much of an honour for you. Perhaps your friend misjudged your like of public speaking? I would assume that she sees you as much more confident and outgoing than you feel that you are. At least you can take this as a compliment. 

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Down here it’s very common for the Best Man to be MC, because he’s got to speak at some time anyway. Oh wait, you’re Australian like me… just tell her what I told you, that it’s common for Best Man to do it. Anyway, decline as soon as possible if you don’t want to do it. Whether it’s the Best Man or not, the fact is she needs to find someone else.

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

As your weding gift to her, perhaps offer to pay for an actual MC?

Post # 13
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Busy bee

@KellyLouise:  It always seems to be a gregarious uncle who does this if it isn’t the DJ. Surely she has someone between family and the groomsmen!

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