(Closed) Advice for waiting bees…

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Yay, I’m glad your still hanging out with us waiting bees 🙂

But what if he doesn’t have the ring??

I’m remaining sane because I know (in my mind, not my heart) that I won’t get a proposal for a couple years at least.  And my boyfriend being the wonderful guy he is, lets me show him pictures of rings I like (as long as I’ll ooh and ahh over the new weapon he got on WoW).  I love him, he loves me.  And when he’s ready, he’ll do it. 

 

But I really wish he’d hurry the F*** up!! 

Post # 4
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1543 posts
Bumble bee

@AmyDee: Ugh, you’re a WoW widow, too?! I loathe that game sometimes. I could care less what kind of dragon he’s riding, or what kind of helmet he’s got, lol, but I go and look when he says, ‘baby,this is cool, come check it out’. Sigh. The things we go through, lol.

Post # 6
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3587 posts
Sugar bee

Thanks for the advice! Maybe it’s just me, but it’s totally different coming from someone who used to be here, rather than someone just coming in and telling us that.

I’m gonna chill on it. I swear, I was doing good, but when we got a date, I went insane. I’m calm now though.LOL Very calm. 🙂

Post # 8
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810 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

@Wonderwoman217: Does your SO try to get you to play too?  Watching him play, I know I never will because that game is like crack to him.  He gets withdrawal if he’s away for too long.  I don’t mind too much because I usually read a book while he plays, but it got bad enough one time that he missed his best friends birthday party because he had a raid scheduled, seriously?! Lame.  Very lame.

 

@Miss Tattoo: It’s not necessarily the relationship that isn’t there yet, it’s our lives.  We are relatively young (me 22 him 23) so I know we have plenty of time which calms me down sometimes too.  And he has goals he wants to reach before getting married, like finishing school, paying off his credit cards, etc. and I agree that stuff should be done before we get married, too.  Before we got an apartment together we had a very big talk about where this relationship was going, because I don’t want to live with someone without a certain amount of commitment, and we agreed that we both saw us growing old together.  So, I’m waiting because we have milestones we have to reach for ourselves individually.  But at the same time I’m thinking, “Why can’t we acheive these things together?!”  Bah.

Post # 9
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1543 posts
Bumble bee

@AmyDee: He doesn’t really try to get me to play, but he does occassionally say stuff like, “I wish you wanted to play,too” or, “there’s lots of couples that both play, I think maybe you might like it once you get into it”. Umm, no. I’ve never been into video games of any sort, no offense to anyone that is, it’s just not my cup of tea, never has been, never will be. I like to read, as well, and he’s not a reader. The thought of reading a book bores him. I tried explaining it to him that that’s how I feel about video and computer games,  but I still don’t think he gets it.

OP, sorry ’bout hijacking the thread w/ all this gaming talk, lol!

Post # 10
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3461 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

ha, funny to see the wow comments.  I play with my boyfriend but he’s pretty addicted so even I want to chuck his computer through the window at times too.  My brother & his wife for the most part only play together which works well for them.  My brother-in-law plays, my sister doesn’t, and for the sake of the relationship he quit the game for a while but is apparently coming back to it.

Just warning ya, it’ll be worse once the new version comes out Dec 7th…  Set boundaries in advance.

Post # 11
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1543 posts
Bumble bee

@kay01: Tell me something I don’t know, lol. He pre-ordered Cataclysm so that it’ll actually be delivered to the house on the 7th. Needless to say, I’ve stocked up on books to keep myself occupied with, ’cause I know he’s gonna be lost to it. But, hopefully new boundaries can be set down soon. His work schedule will be changing, so that may help with cutting down on his playtime.

Post # 12
Member
1237 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Thanks Tattoo, this is a good post. I’ve been going through the different stages of the waiting cycle for about a year and I’m just not sure where we are or what to do. I know he doesn’t have a ring yet and we’ve discussed what I like but we haven’t actually gone shopping (like, trying on rings in person) and I don’t think he’s actually researching yet. I want him to be saving money but he keeps mentioning other “big ticket” items he wants to buy for himself. For example, a second (yes, as in two) car for commuting, since we live in LA and he’s worried that his precious car will get hit or damaged. We live together and I moved 3000 miles to be with him, I feel like it’s his turn to demonstrate his commitment! Right??

Post # 13
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5 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Thanks for this post! I’m going to mark it so I can come back when I’m feeling anxious.

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