Post # 1
So my photographer/family friend just today sent the link to our pro-pics on shutterfly (yay!). I forwarded it to my mom, saying, “I don’t love how the first several came out, but once she gets to the actual wedding (rather than me in silly poses beforehand) there are some wonderful ones.”
So what does my mom do? She FORWARDS THE EMAIL to our family friend/photog, writing above the forwarded section how marvelous the pictures are.
AAARRRGGGGGG SO FRUSTRATING!!!! I would never ever have said anything even slightly negative to the photographer. The last thing on earth I want to do is insult her or make her feel like I think her pictures are anything less than perfect. I am so embarrassed right now, and there’s no way to fix it.
I love my mom and I know she just got carried away with excitement, but now I just want to sink into the floor.
Post # 3
Maybe if the person says something about how the comment hurt her or you want to say something to apologize you could just say “The reason I don’t love them is all posed pictures aren’t my favorite. I love candid shots and your candids of the wedding look perfect. Its just the type of picture not your photography” or something like that. It may be a lie but hey its believable that people don’t like posed pictures and maybe that will save her from being hurt.
Post # 4
THat sucks! You could always tell the photog that you don’t love the way you look in the picture, not the picture itself. I don’t think what you said should offend, I don’t love every single one of my pictures from our wedding
Post # 5
i don’t think this is a big deal – i wouldn’t say anything
Post # 6
Ouch, hopefully the photog won’t take it to heat that much, not every single picture will be perfect. I wouldn’t explain yourself unless she says something directly to you about it though.
Post # 7
Oh no.. dont know if too much can be done 🙁 but you could always just say to her, “i saw my mom forwarded the email from me, i just wanted to clarify that it wasnt your photography that i thought wasnt good, but me posing. Ive loved all the photos, im just never happy with the way i photograph. i hope i didnt offend you but i really love what you have done, and i think the candid ones of me look way better..” BLAH
but i really feel for you.. if you say something it may look like your just trying to cover up.. but if you dont say anything it may look like thats what you meant.. eeeeeeeeeek sounds like something that would happen to me though…
Post # 8
I would be mortified as well! But I think the best thing is to ignore it unless the friend brings it up, and then you can just say that you didn’t like how you looked and play it off like that.