posted 3 years ago in Wellness
Post # 17
1604 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

Sending you a whole lot of love, bee ♡ I haven’t had an abortion but my good friend did. Seeing a therapist really helped her to emotionally heal so I’d really stress finding a therapist ASAP. Also make sure you’re open to your husband about how you’re feeling, as I’m sure he’ll also be a great form of support. Xoxo

Post # 18
37 posts

Send you all of the hugs bee. I personally went the surgical route, but I do remember feeling a little down for a few days after. I think it was a combo of the big choice (although I was, and still am, 100% sure I made the right decision) and the hormones. With some time and some support (your DH and/or a therapist) you can get through this. Allow your body and mind some time to rest and heal  


Post # 19
76 posts
Worker bee

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anon2345 :  Absolutely, it will definitely benefit you both I think. I’d recommend asking the clinic if they offer the service as their therapists are trained specifically in that area and have a better understanding of it.x

Post # 20
2673 posts
Sugar bee

Honestly having an abortion was more emotional than i would ever have imagined, I’m so sorry you are having a hard time with it. I got pregnant in my early 20s by a violent ex (was already my ex when i realized i was pregnant) and was in no way ready for a baby. Abortion was the only logical choice for me, but actually being faced with the decision was deeply painful. I don’t know if it was hormonal or just being faced with the reality, but suddenly my (previously nonexistant) maternal instincts kicked in and it felt like an enormous loss.

The worst of it physically was over in about a week and the worst of it emotionally was mostly gone in about a month. The hormones from being pregnant make the emotional pain much more acute. 

If it makes you feel any better, I had a surgical abortion and it was quite painful for me. The feeling of it when it was happening was horrible and painful and so strange. And immediately afterward i started vomitting and had to lie down for a while before they’d let me leave. 

You’re not alone and you’ll get through it. Lean on your hubs and let him look after you while you’re a bit fragile. 


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