(Closed) Abortion (Childfree by choice bees only please)

posted 9 years ago in Married Life
  • poll: Would you get an abortion if you found out you were pregnant?



    not sure

  • Post # 301
    148 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Tennessee

    I’m definitely Pro-Choice, that being said, I would keep any child that resulted from certain marital activities. DH and I do not plan on having kids, but if I happen to get pregnant, we would not terminate the pregnancy and would keep the child. I do believe that if God wants me to have a child, a thing like birth control won’t stop it, and so be it. We’re able to support a child, we’d just prefer not. But we know that if we did have a baby, we would love it absolutely and would take that path happily.

    But being Pro-Choice, I do feel that it is every woman’s/couple’s right to make that choice for themselves. What makes sense for us can spell disaster for someone else. And my faith based choices shouldn’t be forced on anyone else who doesn’t share my beliefs.

    Post # 302
    3682 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: December 2011

    I’m not CBC any more, but definitely would have had an abortion if I had gotten pregnant before.  Actually, my (planned and wanted) pregnancy has made me even more pro-choice.  I can’t imagine a woman having to go through this if whe wasn’t whole-heartedly into it.  

    Post # 303
    3898 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2017

    I am CBC so far, cause I chose not to have children till I’m ready. I’m not CBC for life. In fact we will TTC in summer 2017. If I was I would most likely abort. Why brimg a childninto this world if it’s not wanted…. our planet has a population problem as is and the parents will be unhappy and so will the parents. If I had gotten preggo at 21 when I ddidnt want kids yet and wasnt ready to habe them and didnt have a life partner who actively wanted to have children and parent I would have aborted. I am very pro choice. I think as long as the fetus is non viable outside of the mother’s body it’s part of her body and she shall do as she pleases. I didt vote cause I dont want to ruin the stats since I’m not “officially” CBC.

    Post # 304
    552 posts
    Busy bee

    I’m CFBC and have had an abortion. Would do it again in a heartbeat if I had too. Luckily I won’t, but it wasn’t even a question.

    Post # 305
    312 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2015

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    AlwaysSunny:  that’s actually not how the math works.  The statistics aren’t failures per number of encounters, they’re they percentage of people using that method that will have a pregnancy within a year.  So if a method is 99% effective, one out of every 100 women using that method would be expected to have a failure of birth control.  I’m not saying it doesn’t fail and I’m completely pro-choice.  I just think it’s important to understand the stats.  It’s important to know how effective proper use of contraception is.  1 pregnancy per 104 sexual encounters might make someone think “oh well, why bother, I’m going to get pregnant anyway”

    This is an awesome failure calculator.  There are so many good, effective options. 

    Post # 306
    1705 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    CBC here, and for at least the next several years, we aren’t ready for that kind of lifelong commitment, and I’d have no issue terminating an unwanted pregnancy right now. 

    My biggest belief is that EVERY woman should have the right to make whichever choice she believes best for her, and no one should be riduculed for it. 

    Post # 307
    543 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2017 - Not sure

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    MissesAwesome:  how many votes do you have to reach before there is a CFBC board? 

    Post # 308
    969 posts
    Busy bee

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    serenitysky:  Hello!  Thanks for the question!  Turns out the system doesn’t work like that.  Votes are used as a way for site admin to gauge interest in a suggestion, but there is no set number that you need to meet/exceed in order to get something passed.  I originally thought it was the way you thought, too … but turns out not so much.  So, boo on that, because at this very moment we have 552 votes!  Which is amazing!  😛  Buuuuuut, votes are still very important because it shows just how much interest there really is, and the site admins need to take note.  🙂

    For more updates check out my thread:  http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/childfree-by-choice-cfbc-board-needed/ 

    And check out the total votes/comments:  http://weddingbee.uservoice.com/forums/241844-submit-your-idea/suggestions/11136888-new-board-section-needed

    Post # 309
    548 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2017 - Friendship Plaza

    Yes, I would have an abortion if I were to become pregnant, in spite of my diligent use of birth control. It would be heartbreaking and awkward and emotional, but it would be done.

    I feel that’s part of the ‘by choice’ part of CFBC. If a failure were to happen, we wouldn’t be like – whoop! okay! guess that’s just the way it’ll be! total life change for us turnaround. … What??? There are many things in life that I’ll ‘roll with the punches’… choosing to raise a child is not one of them. If I’m to be a parent, I want to *choose* to be.

    Bodily-autonomy, yo.

    Post # 310
    1065 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

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    MrsSl82be:  I am not CBC, however I was a few years ago and at that point in the time I would of totally gotten an abortion if I fell pregnant – however this would have only been a backup to my birth control.

    I have no issue with abortion and don’t feel that women need to justify the reasons why they had one either.  

    Post # 311
    1143 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2016

    What is it with all these 3 and 4 year old CFBC threads being resurrected all of a sudden??

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