Post # 77
Thanks for the support.
The adoption is open and I couldn’t be happier with the outcome. My birthson actually just called me at work to invite my children for a sleepover. He also stood with them in our wedding. It seems surreal sometimes and many people don’t understand, but it was what was mant to be for us.
Post # 78
Aww that just made me tear up. I”m glad it all worked out for you guys.
Post # 79
I used to think the same thing…not that they were glorifying it necessarily, but that it didn’t seem like they showed how difficult it really is. I think that in the first season of 16 and pregnant, the girls didn’t seem to have as much trouble as a normal girl would have in the same situation. Since then though, I think that 16 and Pregnant has started to address the really negative aspects of pregnancy and teen motherhood (I think in response to the idea that they were “glorifying teen pregnancy”). It seems like the girls on it now seem a bit more realistic. I’m ready to see the new Teen Mom and see if it also shows the difficulties of teen motherhood in a more realistic light:)
Post # 80
I think it’s interesting that according to our non-scientific poll, about 22% of the people responding have had abortions, which isn’t much lower than the 1/3 statistic. Hope that helps some of the women that live in situations where that can’t be discussed – you aren’t alone, ladies!
Post # 81
I would bet good money that you do know someone, they just haven’t told you. It isn’t something people generally annouce to the world!
Post # 82
Quite a few insurances will cover the cost of an abortion. HOWEVER, just because one has insurance, it doesn’t mean there is a provider in her city that can/will perform abortion services (surgical and pill). That’s where it gets really difficult for women who live in more rural/remote areas of the country.
I know Medi-Cal covers all services related to pregnancy, including termination. I’m not sure if other states offer the same type of coverage for no-to-low income women, teens and/or women needing confidentiality from their insurance companies about the abortion.
The stat of 1 in 3 women having an abortion is accurate. Most abortions are performed in the 1st trimester and the age range of the majority if women seeking abortion services is when they are in their 20s’.
Post # 83
I think that number seems about right. I don’t know many women who have had one, but thats because its not generally something that is talked about openly like that. Who knows, close friends of mine might have gone through one and I don’t even know it.
Post # 84
I just wanted to thank everyone for keeping this thread a civil discussion about the topic at hand. It’s 6 hours in and I haven’t had to flag a single post in what I knew might be a controvercial thread that I’d need to keep an eye on.
I also want to thank all of the ladies who went out on a limb and shared their stories with us. I truely wasn’t expecting anyone to share these personal things (beyond hopefully in the poll) and I’m very impressed by the courage of these ladies to share with us all.
At this time, based on my highly non-scientific poll, the members of the Bee have fewer women who’ve had abortions than the national average. We’re currently at 1 in 6.13 women instead of the 1 in 3 average.
Again thank you for the civility, honesty, and frankness you’ve all shown in this thread. It’s nice to see the Bee be able to discuss a controvercial issue on occasion without it turning into a debate.
Post # 85
I have never had an abortion, but have known of 4 women who have, and I would imagine there are a few more who have in my life, but I suspect it’s a rarity to feel comfortable talking openly about it.
I went to a screening of this film in my city last year, and the movie was followed by a short talk/discussion led by a doctor from a city nearby who has been an abortion provider for over 15 years now I think. During her talk, the physician mentioned that there is often (as PP’s have mentioned) a pre-conceived idea of who the majority of women seeking abortion services are. She made sure to wipe these assumptions from our minds and realize that women from all different social, religious, and educational backgrounds seek abortion services. She mentioned that she has seen women heavily involved in the pro-life movement in my province in her office; women who already have several children and are stable but just do not want another child; girls as young as 10, etc. – basically women and girls from all across the board. While I was not entirely surprised to hear this, many women would be. Frankly, though, we do not always know where our lives are headed and we must remain compassionate because we never know when we might be the one to end up in an unplanned situation.
It’s definitely interesting to hear women from the States discuss this as I have always felt very lucky to be Canadian and have free access to safe abortion services should I require them.
I truly admire the courage of the women who have had the procedure and are willing to talk about it. I believe this willingness opens so many doors for girls and women who may feel completely alone after having gone through with an abortion. You never know who you could be helping cope with it just by being honest.
Post # 86
Im actually surprised about the civil nature of this thread as well. Im very impressed with the bees! And I want to say thank you too. To you and to the rest of the bees that have commented on this thread. I have never shared my story with anyone except very close friends (and of course my husband) and it is somewhat freeing to do so. Even if someone read these posts and judged me (or any of the other ladies who have had an abortion) I appreciate that no one has said anything negative.
Post # 87
I wonder if that statistic considers miscarriages as abortions. Because then that statistic would seem right to me.
Post # 88
I was thinking the same exact thing…about everyone being pleasant and this convo not taking any nasty turns.
I know of only one person to have an abortion. I think the 1 in 3 ratio seems low, only because I don’t think this is a topic many women are willing to participate in.
Post # 89
Hear hear!! Very heartening to see such a thoughtful, compassionate discussion of such a difficult issue. 🙂 And I likewise would like to thank everyone for sharing their stories. The more people are open about their experiences (whatever choice they ultimately made), the better it is for those who are going through it or have gone through it.
I don’t believe so – I believe the stat is only for induced, not spontaneous, abortions.
Post # 90
I have not had an abortion and I do know of one friend who had one for an ecoptic pregnancy. I agree with the PP’s who said that there are a lot of societal assumptions about those who get abortions and that I think the majority of us would be surprised at finding out who we know who have had them.
I think it’s sad that so women feel ashamed to make a choice that is theirs to make. I personally am pro-life in my views regarding abortion, but I would NEVER think badly about a person for having an abortion. Ever. It’s not my business to judge others’ choices and I am glad we live in a country where we have the freedom to make those choices for ourselves.
Post # 91
It’s always very comforting to know that there really are people like you out there. Pro-lifers regarding their own choices, but are for women being able to make that personal decision on their on. So for that, thank you!