(Closed) RSVPs & table assignments. crud.

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
907 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I think it’s fine to combine tables. However, it sounds like your guest list won’t end up being too large . . . have you considered having open seating? It tends to even out if you have a few “extra” seats as insurance. You could always reserve a couple tables closest to you for immediate family.


P.S. I don’t think it’s bad to be a little excited to receive “can’t make it” RSVPs 🙂

Post # 4
3267 posts
Sugar bee

I think that it is imperative to mix tables.  It is good manners to be able to mingle with other guests.

It would look silly to have tables of 5 people at a 10 top. 


Post # 5
6572 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2010

We had to combine and mix tables. There’s just no way to fit everybody perfectly at a wedding. After days of agonizing over it, we just finally sat people where we had space and figured they’d just have to deal with it.

Post # 6
1126 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I had to combine a few tables, and I’m not too worried about it.  We have a 9-top made up of five of my parents’ friends and four of FI’s parents’ friends, plus we put our high school friends together (5 of mine, 4 of his) and our college friends (4 each).  I think as long as each person has 1-2 other people at the table they know, it’ll be fine.  Also, don’t put a couple of 25-year olds at the grandparents table, etc.  But people will be social at weddings, so no problem!

Post # 7
1696 posts
Bumble bee

@sorrycharlie:   Ahem, I do this all the time: that is, use seating plans to arrange guests in compatible groups with new people that I think they would enjoy meeting. That is the art of hospitality. An artist creates paintings with oilpaints and brushes: a hostess creates conversations and future friendships with place cards and a seating plan.

It does help, of course, to have guests with enough social sophistication to know how to make conversation with new acquaintances. But if you can find one sophisticate per table, they are often able on their own to draw out the shyer or more gauche members of the table group and get the conversation going.

Post # 8
173 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Definitely mix it up with seating.  I love going to weddings and sitting next to people I don’t know.  It makes dinner more interesting.  Good luck with the seating chart!

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