Post # 1
I realize this question is ENORMOUSLY vague.. but I haven’t got a clue and I need to make some decisions soon. I just got engaged a couple of weeks ago and everyone including my fiance thinks we should get married late next summer. The problem is that I’m taking courses right now to upgrade my diploma while working full time, and I need to run/work out 3-4 times a week or I don’t sleep. We also have two big, close, families that want a lot of our time, AND we have our friends who I never see anymore lately and who I miss dearly. I don’t want to absolutely hate planning this wedding, I want to enjoy it as much as I can. But waiting a year and 9-10 months might be a bit much. Pushing for an extra year is going to hurt my fiance’s feelings and disappoint my family, so I don’t want to do that if it’s not necessary.
So my question is, is it totally nuts to get married 9 months from now? How much time a week/month do you have to spend on planning a wedding generally? We already have the venue because we’re having it at a family ranch, and it’s going to be pretty informal. It also shouldn’t be hard to get proper catering etc. because we’re both in the food industry and his dad is a former renowned executive chef. His mother and I are artists/designers so can probably take care of things like the invitation, table cards, signs etc. It’s probably going to be about 100 people… I also won’t need a wedding planner because my sister who is a stay at home mom is brilliant at event planning, and my parents are retired and will be very involved.
Side note – I don’t mind that my family will be that involved because I’m not super fussy about the details.
Post # 2
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Honestly? Once we changed our venue/plan it took me about 3 hours. 😅 But let me explain bc I highly doubt thats the norm. We found a gorgeous local park, I already had a delicious catering company in mind, Yelped for an equipment rental place with good reviews, not really a crafty or DIY type but I have a specific centerpiece idea in mind so went on Ebay and got everything I need for about $300. Far less than ordering flowers that’ll shortly die. We already knew our guest list would be short, family and close friends only. Fiance had a DJ and officiant in mind, photographer was already booked from before the venue change but finding him took maybe 30 minutes. I think this process is as stressful as one allows it to be. But since yours will be fairly casual I doubt planning will take over your life. 🙂 You’ll be fine!
Post # 3
- Wedding: February 2017 - Edson Keith Mansion
I’m a full time law student, work part time, very involved in youth advocacy programs in the community, dog mom, and gym addict. Compared to everything else, planning a wedding was easy! After you book a venue, the hardest part is getting a current address from everyone on your guest list.
Nine months is plenty of time. 🙂 Go for it!
Post # 4
I think the tightest part for you is how picky you are with the dress. Some designers need 6 months to make a dress. I’ve read, it’s recommended to leave 2-3 months for alterations. That doesn’t give you much time to look for a dress. I’m different from other bees – I wouldn’t be able to do school, work, and then plan a wedding on top of that. My anxiety would go through the roof.
That said, it didn’t take me much time to book our vendors because I know what I want and my Fiance is easy going. For each vendor, I spent a few hours googling, maybe an hour narrowing down to 2-3, then emailing for more details. I would say I’ve spent 5-10 hours total booking vendors (not including the wait time). The wait time is what I say takes the MOST time – waiting for vendors to respond, getting more informations, asking questions, and reading contracts.
I think I had booked most of my vendors in a month. Having said that, I fuck around at work looking at wedding stuff and have been “keeping an eye out” for wedding stuff even before we got engaged so it feels like I had a bit of a head start. I also lucked out getting a lot of recos from my wedding planner for free. I also have many smaller details to work through but if you don’t care about that, then it’s much easier.
Post # 5
I’m planning mine in under 6. You’re fine. It takes as long as you want it to, honestly. The only caveat is that vendors book up in advance and it can take a bit to get in your dress.
Post # 6
I’m planning mine in 8 months. At this point, I’m 6 months out and pretty much everything planned. I say go for it! 9 months is plenty of time, just start dress shopping asap 🙂
Post # 7
Our engagement will be 11 months long so we’ve spread it out.
But in all fairness, we had made and booked all of the major vendors about 2 months in.
I’d say 9 months is AMPLE time to plan your wedding.
My best advice is to write your own 9-month plan and decide what things you want to have accomplished each month.
We’re 4.5 months out and are practically done 🙂
Post # 8
9 months is SUPER doable. Some people plan theirs in a few weeks when plans change! A good friend of mine planned a beautiful wedding in 3 months, and she said it wasn’t difficult as long as you’re organized.
Post # 9
I dont think you will have trouble planning, but popular vendors might be booked for popular dates. I live in a smaller city though and am planning a wedding in an even smaller town. If there is someone specific you like, call them first!
Post # 10
9 months is totally doable. I didn’t start planning mine until about then.
Post # 11
I mean this in the nicest way possible….but don’t rely on your Stay-At-Home Mom sister to plan your wedding. Even though it appears she has plenty of time it’s not her job to plan your wedding. I would highly suggest hiring a planner. They will be best prepared to help you not only find and book vendors but plan the logisitcs of having a wedding at a family ranch (which I’m assuming is not set up as a wedding venue?).
I say this as a wedding photographer…..the logistics of planning a wedding at that type of venue will be a lot more daunting than you think but that doesn’t mean that it can’t be awesome (I think it sounds like a great venue!!). It’s very different than a venue where much of what you need is provided. On top of that, someone needs to be the point person who handles the setup, all the vendors, etc. Your family and friends should get to enjoy your big day, not work it!
9 months is totally doable…I planned a wedding for 200 in 9 months (at a venue similar to yours…other than it being a ranch it was a venue where *everything* had to be brought in). The biggest hurdle you’ll run into is doing the research to find the vendors, and then of course if you’re picking a prime date less than a year out the possibility that the top vendors are already booked.
Post # 12
I will never understand why people feel they need forever to plan a wedding. I get that some venues book up fast – but that’s the only reason you’d need more than a few months. My fiancé and I are both lawyers and are insanely busy. We’ve managed to plan a 100+ person wedding in 6 months while also buying a house and selling a house. Just don’t let the wedding industry convince you that you need longer 🙂
Post # 13
I gave myself 14 months and now my wedding is 11 months away and I’ve planned everything. It was super easy! If you’re not going to go crazy because your flowers aren’t the exact shade of whatever then I think it’s fine. I work full-time, play violin, and work out 6 times and week, and have an active social life. As long as you get your venue, it should be ok.
Post # 14
We planned ours in 8.5 months. I nailed down the major vendors within a month, and then did very little for the next few months. We wrote our own ceremony, which was more work than I realized. My husband is dyslexic, so that definitely fell to me and i probably spent close to 25 hours on it. The other big project was putting together the timeline and DJ instructions, which took a lot of time – mostly because I’m a perfectionist. I probably spent 10-15 hours on that. Everything else was just bits of time here and there. I work full time, work out 4-5 days a week, have a social life and teach in addition to my full time work. It wasn’t always easy, but it was way easier than medical school and residency!
Post # 15
I planned mine in 8 months. I honestly could have planned it in a much shorter time frame. Unless you are DIY-ing every tiny detail then I don’t see why it would take anyone a huge amount of time. If you can easily get your vendors lined up, then the rest is easy (at least it was for me).