(Closed) About ready to give up…(long)

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 4
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1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

Oh my God! you poor thing! I bet it must be so stressful not knowing about your venue. Can they not give you your deposit back? Do yuo have to wait to see if the new owners will honour the contract?

I think your best way forward is to look at back up plans, maybe see if there is another venue available in case it doesn’t work out? I also think you are definitely right in looking for a new florist. You want vendors you can count on and if they keep cancelling several appointments or not showing up at all is a big red flag for me.

The only other advice I can give you is to try to relax and let things unfold. When I get stressed out about stuff I think about some of the weddings I have seen on “Don’t tell the bride” (Not sure if you’ve seen it but it’s basically where the groom plans the whole wedding, dress and all, in 3 weeks and the bride has no imput as they can’t have any contact at all in that time) where stuff ends up being completely the opposite of what the bride wants, and stuff go terribly wrong but at the end of it they always end up being super happy and think it’s the most amazing day – and you know what? It will be because it’s your wedding day no matter where it is or what goes wrong. At the end of the day it will all work out somehow and you will have a beautiful day and get your amazing man. ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 6
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1150 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Ontario, Canada

@IzzyBear:  Aww your Fiance sounds so sweet! He is right though, it will happen no matter what the details are. It’s easy to loose perspective sometimes when you are caught up in weding planning but it will happen and will be romantic and beautiful if it’s at a venue or at the courthouse because of your love for each other.

 

Post # 7
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845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@IzzyBear:  Aaaahhhhhhh no! What a headache. On the up though I can tell you that most service providers tend to be a bit flakey. I have it with my photographer and custom shoe person and I have let Fiance deal with the stationer because prison in a third world country is not worth the satisfaction of murdering that woman.

 

As for a plan though – get on to getting your deposit back ASAP, read the terms and conditions carefully and book a venue with a better chance at longevity because you totally don’t need this headache.

 

Also, if your florist is a nightmare get your Fiance to email him or phone. I find that when the boys step in the vendors know we mean business without us having to be rude or annoyed with them upfront. Same as the venue though – if you have paid anything get it back and go somewhere where you’ll have less headache and more joy!

 

Good luck.

Post # 8
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

Oh my god.

I would be outraged if they didn’t want to honor your contract AND didn’t refund your money. WTF!

I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, hon. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 11
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11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

@IzzyBear:  No, I totally understand. They have zero reason to refund you–it’s not their money or their fault. If they won’t honor your contract (and I hope they do, as I can’t really see that they’d want to put anyone out), you can always try to take the previous owners to court.

Post # 12
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1828 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Deposits generally aren’t refundable if YOU back out. However that is not the issue in this case. I would be calling around and trying to find out what recourse I would have if your contract isn’t fulfilled.

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